Your mother sounds really cruel. She shouldn't make you feel that way nor do that to her kids. I can't explain why she does it but it's a reason behind it, but only she knows.
Do you and your sister share the same dad? The reason I ask this because if your do you might look like your dad and she represent you in the process.
I know of a person who is in the same situation and no matter what she does her mom never give her a break. Now she got her masters, a home, husband, and child. Her sister has nothing but a child and that's it but her mom gives her sister all the praise. She never even acknowlegde her getting her masters and her mom talk so much about the sister to where you think she was the only child. There's was many times she cried to me and our friends about this and eventually she stop looking for her mother support in anything. You know she told us she got a hug and felt love from her mother growing up? She even calls my mother mom and her mother by her first name and just gave up on her but still is respectful towards her. It is sad also because when her mother get sick she is the first and only one by her side while the sister is no where to be found but yet the mom still praise her.
Just don't be that way with your kids, and I doubt you will. No matter what you do or say to your mom, most likely she'll continue this behavior. Have you confronted her about your feelings? Most likely if you do to her it will look like a sign of jealousy. I wished your mom wasn't like this but we can't choose our mothers. One day she will reflect on how she treated you.
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