[Kittie_Cat]

OK so I'm on birth control and me and my boyfriend had sex on the 19th
This is the second day for me to be on just my iron pills
Usually by then I have started but go figure I haven't
My mom told me that our family is very fertile
(no she doesn't know that I've ever had sex)
And so me and him are both mortified
I'm not really sure what to do
And I kind of need someone's opinion
Because 15 and 16 year olds are not too experienced in this area

I have basically decided that there is no way I can be pregnant (denial)
My family would be so disappointed in me
Because I'm there baby and our family is quite religious
I keep thinking its all a bad dream
And praying that I'm not
But if I turn out to be I'm so unprepared
There is so much more to say but mainly because I'm FREAKING out
please help me i NEED someones help

[ntbntb78]

Your 16 why did you do it think u can help me

[DoulaLC]

You'll have to try a pregnancy test to know for sure. If you have been taking the pill as directed, odds are you are not pregnant. While it can happen, even while on the pill, when taken correctly it offers very good protection.
Your period may just be off... give it a few more days and see if it is just late this month. If it still doesn't show up, try a home pregnancy test. IF you are pregnant, let your family know as soon as possible. Best to get it over and done with so you aren't having to worry about telling them. No doubt they will be disappointed, but most do become supportive after the shock wears off. Certainly have a plan about how you will complete your education, afford a baby, have your boyfriend's support, etc. in case you are pregnant. Good to have a plan in place before you talk to your parents so that you can show that you are at least willing to take the situation seriously and have given it thought.
If you aren't pregnant, consider waiting on further sex until you are in a better position to have a child because it will always be a possibility... even with birth control pills. No one thinks it will happen to them... but it can, and it does.

[Kittie_Cat]

I have been taking the pills the way I am suppose to
But mom kept saying we still haven't found the right one for you
Mainly because I started them for acne and period regulation only
My friends have already bought me a test but its only been a week
I know I am suppose to go to the gynecologist the 2nd of October for my HPV shot so I thought about talking to them I'm just not sure yet
Me and my boyfriend already know that we have to figure A LOT out
And we have decided to wait before we really start talking about it

What's so bad is I told him I wanted to wait like previously and then it happened
So he feels like crap about it
And I sort of really didn't want to do it
And feel like crap for it!

[Kittie_Cat]

your 16 why did you do it think u can help me

Why did I do it?
Because I'm stupid!
&& help you with what??

[ntbntb78]

I like a girl but I don't know how to tell her (I never said your stupid)

[liz28]

Kitty cat, whenever you don't want to do something then don't. Don't ever feel pressured because it your body and you can say no. Besides birth control were your using condoms too?

[Kittie_Cat]

Kitty cat, whenever you don't want to do something then don't. Don't ever feel pressured because it your body and you can say no. Besides birth control were your using condoms too?

I wish I would have been using a condom!
& I know I should have just said no and stopped
But it was like unconsious thinking..
If that makes any since

[liz28]

A condom and birth control will lessen your odds of conceiving. I think it's best to have a talk with your doctor about sex and if your going soon to get your hpv shot make he/she aware of this matter. Otherwise, it's best to wait a week to take the test but make sure it's test with a low hcg level, hcg is the pregent hormone and the lower you're in your pregnancy the lower the number would be. First response is good and even the dollar tests from the 99¢ store, just make sure it isn't expire. I hope you aren't but it does give you different outcome about sex.

[DoulaLC]

i wish i would have been using a condom!
& i know i should have just said no and stopped
but it was like unconsious thinking..
if that makes any since

It makes perfect sense... it's not always easy to stop once things heat up, your head is saying one thing and your body is saying something completely opposite, but the trick is to avoid putting yourself in a situation where you have to stop in the first place.

Since now you know just what will lead up to it, be careful how initmate you get with your boyfriend. If you need to start keeping doors open, do that. If you need to not be home together when no one else is there, make sure you aren't. You both have to be able to put on the brakes, but ultimately, since you are the one who can become pregnant and would have to deal with the situation the most, you will have to be the one who sets the limits. He feels badly about the situation as well, so when things are calm, have a talk about what those limits will be and how you will both respect that.

[mommyv]

Hi kittie, I hope this doesn't sound like a lecture because it's not. My best advise to you is that if you are pregnant definitely talk to your parents more than anything, but if your not- you should wait- unfortunately when girls start having sex, they kind of have a tendency to think they're pg a lot, and you sound like your mortified of disappointing your parents so why not wait? I lost my virginity at 17 and I had my first miscarriage at 17, having to tell my mother was the most embarrassing, scary, nerve wracking thing I ever had to do and let me tell you hunny, I was with that boy for five years and it still wasn't worth it! Not to mention the disappointment of everyone's "good girl".

[Hazel1220]

Yes it so hard to say no sometimes. Everyone makes mistakes. Now firstly, stay calm getting so worked up is not good for you. Talk to your doc home test can be unreliable. Did your doc prescribe you the iron pills you are taking? Those can have serious side effects if not prescribed by a doc. Until you know for sure eat right, and take your vitamins. No matter the outcome remember that your family does love you