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dmagic · May 15, 2006, 06:59 PM

OK, I been talking to this girl for a long time like 6-7 months, and she wants to be bf/gf. I don't have a problems with that but I like doing what I;m doing now... we chill, hang out, and we are even having sex, but what is getting me is that she wants to be bf/gf. I told her I rather take it slow try to figure each other out, that fine till she told me that she want to be with me and she doesn't want to lose me. She said she fills dumb cause "she waiting around" and nothing has happened yet. I think is it that you have to get with some one cause your talking... hell we're doing every thing like a bf/gf, but without the title. She tell me that if I want I can get rid of her without anything cause there no string attach, cause we're not together. Also I just told me that she love me, and she did want to but it happen but it did, not being bf/gf. So I guess I'm asking what to do, she said doesn't mind taking it slow, but she doesn't want to feel like an idoit for "waiting" around, and nothing happnes. I can see myself with this girl but not now.. I just about to turn 22 I want to live that type of life style. I mean going out when eva, not saying "um baby is it cool if i can go with my friend"... no! I rather just get up and go. My friend say want can or can't you do with a girlfriend? Think about it, it is a lot when you sit down and figure it out. I mean I not going having sex with all types of girl or anything like that I just don't want to settle down yet, but what should I do about this??

s_cianci · May 15, 2006, 07:04 PM

It sounds like you aren't ready for any type of relationship right now so you should tell her that honestly and up-front. You can hang out with her if you want but don't be shocked if she decides to click her heels and walk away from you. It sounds like you and her want different things at this point so that wo of you are really not compatible. You're in a position where you could tactfully help her to realize that.

talaniman · May 15, 2006, 07:56 PM

Be honest about your feelings and stop having sex with her. As long as your taking her to bed she will feel like you are hers. If you don't want a relationship then stop acting like her boyfriend.:cool: :eek:

phillysteakandcheese · May 15, 2006, 08:43 PM

It's a sweet deal for you... You get all the benefits of being "in a relationship" with her, but are completely free of any commitment to her.

I actually feel sorry for her. You're playing her for a fool...