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Ray2172 · Sep 7, 2008, 04:52 PM

OK, I write this knowing I'm going to get hate comments and wondering why comments and if you're one of those people please don't comment.

I'm a guy, 16 years old, going to get my license in about a week or so and I'm bi. I've only told one person, but I want to tell more. I want to say I'm nervous but, I'm not completely nervous I'm just waiting I guese I need a reason to tell people. I want to ask a couple of guys if they are bi or gay or as crappy as it sounds just want to mess around. I know this isn't much of a question, but I don't know what to do.

I guese what I'm saying is how can I ask a guy without weirding him out or scaring him.

And if any one is wondering there are time when I want the love of a guy and other when I want love from a lady.

ChihuahuaMomma · Sep 7, 2008, 05:24 PM

You are not going to get hate comments here. This is a very understanding and supporting community. I notice that you are new here, so welcome.

Now, to your question. You don't need a reason to tell people your sexuality except to be honest with them. Also, to intiate a same sex relationship would be the same as intiating a hetero relationship. Show interest.

JBeaucaire · Sep 8, 2008, 06:04 AM

All relationships involve risk. "Weirding out" the object of your interest is the main risk. There's no getting around it.

You minimize the risk by not being overly aggressive when you DO bring it up to the person (guy or girl) you talk to about it.

Fr_Chuck · Sep 8, 2008, 06:16 AM

Ok, not everyone is going to accept it, you may lose some friends, again you may not. Again don't try to push this on everyone, don't expect or try to make them accept it.

hippy gong · Sep 9, 2008, 05:24 PM

Perhaps a bit of ever-so-subtle flirting?

Ray2172 · Sep 11, 2008, 12:26 PM

I can flirt with a chick but with a guy that doesn't know I'm bi they usually don't get it

hippy gong · Sep 11, 2008, 12:33 PM

As chihuahamomma said, show interest, laugh at their jokes and look at them directly in the face and keep smiling :D if they aren't interested, they will let you know - believe me :rolleyes:

ChihuahuaMomma · Sep 11, 2008, 09:49 PM

Originally Posted by Ray2172

I can flirt with a chick but witha guy that doesn't know i'm bi they usually dont get it

It wouldn't be hard for him to figure out. It's not rocket science. When you pass him set your hand on the small of his back. When you laugh at a joke put your hand on top of his. When the joke is over say "you're so cute!"