[brianna26]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. We are both 26. I have never been able to orgasm from sex, and only been able to orgasm from oral once. Not with my current boyfriend though. I am able to get myself off within minutes though. And now I am pregnant and we are supposed to be moving in together and I know that sex is not a base for a relationship but it is very important. It's like he has completely given up. He rarely ever engages sex. His engaging in sex is telling me to take my clothes off. He doesn't touch me.. he doesn't try to turn me on in anyway. When I try to bring it up to him he get really defensive and says that because he can't get me off that its basically not worth trying. He says that he doesn't like to be told how to have sex or give oral. He also seems to get offended if I try to stimulate myself during sex. Like I'm telling him that he's not doing it right. I tell him that it's my problem that I can't get off and I know that, but the act of sex for me is not about a race to the finish.. it's about the closeness that you feel with that person. And now that I'm pregnant he acts like sex with me is a sin or something. I'm only a month and a half pregnant so its not like I'm showing. I don't know what to do.. his lack of interest in sex is starting to rub off on me.. I'm 26 and I am not ready to give up my sex life.

[SweetDee]

Counseling and do it fast... I can't stress enough how important it is that you fix this relationship before you bring a child into it. If he can't be open minded about everything you are trying to do to fix this issue (you have), then he'll continue to drive this relationship into the ditch. It takes TWO to make a relationship work. And even tho' I understand his feelings of feeling like lesser of a man, not being able to bring his woman to orgasm, it's debilitating for the relationship between you both if he doesn't get it together AND FAST. You seem to be a very giving and loving person... but if he's going to suck you dry of all your attempts to make things better, having a child come into the picture will only exacerbate things... and let me tell you life will suck living w/ him then having a baby on top of it. Really think about having a child w/ a boyfriend who's this narrow and closed up. Consider that he's only a boyfriend and not a husband..

[Choux]

You really don't have any passion for your boyfriend, and he knows it. He is never going to come around until you develop your sexuality... are you perhaps addicted to your vibrator? Good sex isn't mechanical devices or body parts, it is about a passionate brain... :)

I see nothing but resentments in your future, and no hope for a happy sexual life at this time. Too bad, that is a very bad environment in which to bring a baby up in.