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ahmar · Apr 25, 2006, 05:56 AM

Well I'm in problem I don't know how to get ridd of sex habbit I'm addicted to porn sites on net and articles like that I masturbate too.plz tell me I want to be good person and want to leave masturbation

NeedKarma · Apr 25, 2006, 06:03 AM

Pray. God will help you through it.

Krs · Apr 25, 2006, 06:07 AM

There is nothing wrong about masterbating dude, just as long as you don't go overboard..

Try find yourself a nice lady to pleasure you and you pleasure her ;)

fredg · Apr 25, 2006, 06:56 AM

HI,
If you are really serious about this, just try your best NOT to go to these sites!
You can do it! There are also Support Groups, which you might find in your local area, might not.
But, tell yourself, that just for today, just one day at a time, you are NOT going to visit any porn sites; then don't do it. Don't think about tomorrow, just today.
I do wish you the best, and do you have any hobbies? Find something you like doing, that does not involve sex at all, and give it a try.

phillysteakandcheese · Apr 25, 2006, 08:50 AM

Like any other addiction, you'll need support and help to get through it.

Check your local newspaper for a Sex Addicts Anonymous group. Go to the meetings, even when you don’t want to. Read and think about the 12 steps…

For you:

Become more physically active. Work out. Go for walks in the park. Play a sport - It’s spring, and lots of local softball and slow-pitch teams are looking for players!

Get a hobby that will take your mind off sex. Maybe you’re interested in history, or cars, or baseball statistics. Find something other than sex to think about.

I would also install software to block adult sites. Something as simple as a hosts file block will help (check http://www.mvps.org/winhelp2002/hosts.htm).

And of course, resist trying to see what gets through and what gets blocked.

And as previously mentioned, pray for help and understanding. :)

RickJ · Apr 25, 2006, 09:40 AM

When you're tempted to do either, go outside immediately. Walk around the block, go to a park, throw a frisbee with someone.

You will not beat this overnight, but if you can visit one less porn site tomorrow, than you do today, and so-on the next day, you will work it out.

smoothy · Apr 27, 2006, 12:56 PM

Simple... find something to do away from the computer... go out and walk, jog... work out. Key is to break the habit... which is exactly what it is.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 27, 2006, 01:47 PM

These types of sites can be a serious adiction. We had an employee in our company, we found he was visiting porn sites. We explained that this violated company policy ( he was allowed to use a computer on breaks or lunch to check his email)

Well even after telling him that we had a way to know every site he visited on the computer, he stopped for a few days but went right back to them knowing we would see it and fire him. But he just could not stop.

It is very possible that you can just stop, get a computer shop to put in filters that can not be turned off, so you just can't go to those sites is one choice. And if it is just too much, get rid of your computer.

And of course professional help is always a good idea when facing a serious problem

talaniman · Apr 27, 2006, 07:11 PM

I go along with Fr Chuck ,seek the HELP of a professional,like any other addiction, the right help will change those bad patterns and show you a better way:cool: :)

Starman · Jun 3, 2006, 09:08 PM

Originally Posted by ahmar

well i m in problem i don't know how to get ridd of sex habbit i m addicted to porn sites on net and articles like that i masturbate too.plz tell me i want to be good person and want to leave masturbation

All the advice given has been good. I'd like to add a bit more. All behavior has a stimulous which provokes or encourages it. Masturbation is caused by sexual tension which naturally increases and clamors for release. Marriage is the biblical suggestion to alleviate that tension.

1 Corinthians 7:9
But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

The following sites offer additional relevant advice.

Links

http://www.allaboutlifechallenges.or...-addiction.htm

http://www.sexualcontrol.com/masturb...addiction.html

maria26 · Jun 3, 2006, 10:25 PM

Starman you are entitled to your opinion but do you think it is smart to have someone jump into such a commmited act purely for sex?
I would have to agree with everyone in getting professional advice for the addiction...
And Ahmar just because a person masurbates it does not make them a horrible person... it makes them Human!

valinors_sorrow · Jun 4, 2006, 07:05 AM

You have been given much good advice here.

Along the lines of a few suggestions, here are the links to two "12-step" organizations concerned with recovery from a sexual addiction:
http://saa-recovery.org/
http://www.slaafws.org/

Make a point of turning to them instead of a porn site. If you make the point often enough, it eventually can replace a bad habit with a good habit. These sites may put you in contact with people who have solved the very problem you have. Do what they did and get the same results.

It is my firsthand experience of a 12-step program (albeit it was for drinking) that when I worked the steps completely, I was set free. You were wise to reach out for help and that, in itself, isn't easy, but I believe the same freedom can be possible for a sex addict too.

I hope this helps.

NeedKarma · Jun 4, 2006, 04:17 PM

Originally Posted by Starman

Masturbation is caused by sexual tension which naturally increases and clamors for release. Marriage is the biblical suggestion to alleviate that tension.

1 Corinthians 7:9
But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.

This is both funny and scary at the same time. I shudder to think of the kind of woman that enters into marriage for such a reason.

I think that the original asker should stick exclusively with prayer - if it can cure cancer it can cure porn addiction.

Starman · Jun 5, 2006, 09:37 AM

Originally Posted by maria26

Starman you are entitled to your opinion but do you think it is smart to have someone jump into such a commmited act purely for sex?
I would have to agree with everyone in getting professional advice for the addiction...
and Ahmar just because a person masurbates it does not make them a horrible person...it makes them Human!

The advice is not my opinion. They are the words of the inspired Apostle Paul directed to those who are plagued by sexual passion. You see, for Christians sex outside the marriage is a sin. It's called fornication if committed by the unmarried and adultery if committed by the married one with someone other than his spouse. So if a person wants to avoid falling prey to these sins as well as the masturbation habit, then Paul tells him that the acceptable solution would be to marry.

This doesn't mean that Paul believed that sex was to be the only reason one should marry. Only that one should consider marriage as a viable acceptable solution to the problem of being constantly plagued by temptation.

Originally Posted by NeedKarma

This is both funny and scary at the same time. I shudder to think of the kind of woman that enters into marriage for such a reason.

I think that the original asker should stick exclusively with prayer - if it can cure cancer it can cure porn addiction.

Sorry I scared you.
Glad I made you laugh.

The kind of person who enters marriage in order to solve a temptation to sin problem is the kind of person who respects God's laws and wants to do things the way God tells us to. The kind of person who masturbates without concern or commits fornication in order to alleviate his passions would be the kind of person who doesn't care what God thinks and so any solution offered might be acceptable. I suppose that atheists or agnostics would be such kinds of persons since they tend to become their own law choosing for themselves what's right or wrong.

Genesis 3:5
For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil. KJV

Now that is scary!

NeedKarma · Jun 5, 2006, 09:51 AM

I guess we each have a different view towards marriage and masturbation. But tell me, what about my recommendation of prayer?

J_9 · Jun 5, 2006, 10:03 AM

NeedKarma, I agree that prayer may be able to help someone away from porn addiction, but can it really cure cancer?

Being a cancer survivor I used a lot of prayer, but it is not the only thing that actually cured me.

NeedKarma · Jun 5, 2006, 10:11 AM

I say that because some lady where I worked talked about a friend having cancer and them all egtting together for a prayer group to help the person overcome the cancer. Personally I'd be making sure they had the best medical help possible.

Of course if they are in remission then God answered their prayers of course, but what happens if they die from the cancer? Did God smite them for a sin? Then why did that person die of cancer ?

I believe that this porn addiction is self-inflicted and only that person can get themselves out of it. To believe that one should marry a woman to servcie his impulses is ludicrous to me.

Starman · Jun 5, 2006, 10:11 AM

Originally Posted by NeedKarma

I guess we each have a different view towards marriage and masturbation. But tell me, what about my recommendation of prayer?

Thanks for reminding me! Your advice is very good. Prayer can definitely help a person to gain control of his emotions. I know this by personal experience since the only way that I could have overcome the obstacles I did once when I was under severe
Persecutiuon was via prayer which strengthened me beyond my own abilities.

Psalm 73:26
My flesh and my heart faileth: but God is the strength of my heart, and my portion for ever.

Psalm 66:19
But verily God hath heard me; he hath attended to the voice of my prayer.

Philippians 4:13
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

NeedKarma · Jun 5, 2006, 10:13 AM

So only the prayer delivered you from the persecution? You didn't do anything else nor had the help from any outside force?

Starman · Jun 5, 2006, 10:30 AM

Originally Posted by NeedKarma

So only the prayer delivered you from the persecution? You didn't do anything else nor had the help from any outside force?

I did study the Bible but without constant communication with God, asking for his help via holy spirit, study would not have been enough. I prayed at night before I slept, in the morning before going to work-where I was persecuted, during the breaks, at lunchtime, and whenever the persecution was initiated and the temptation to retaliate in kind or otherwise strike back in an unchristian way emerged. I specifically mentioned my problems and the need I had to be strengthened, not primarily for my own sake but for the sake of giving an answer to the ones who invisibly challenge God as had been the case with Job. After each prayer I always felt empowered and easily shrugged off all the attacks. But if I would have ceased in prayer I would have been lost.