[GW28]

Okay,

I have been in a relationship with the greatest girl for almost 6 years. I love her dearly and she loves me like there is no tomorrow. I don't know where I would have ever been without her. We have a great relationship and are best friends.

Now here comes the problem... I was married before my girl and I met. My ex wife and I still talk and are pretty good friends (we never see each other in person because we live in different states). Anyway, my ex and I have been talking a lot recently because my current girl and I were having some problems. I found out that she is still very much in love with me and she's not shy on letting me know this either.

I still have some feelings for her of course because of our past, but the problem is that I don't know that I really want her to feel this way about me. Yeah, we had a lot of good times and were very close... even when we got divorced, she was just beside herself because she couldn't understand why we were doing it.

I feel confused and I don't like it. I tried everything to get her to see that I have moved on and she should do the same... I mean, six years is a long time to stay stuck in the past. When I say that I have tried everything, I mean everything... I have ignored her comments about it, I have been avoiding her IM's and even went as far as to tell her to leave me the H alone... I just don't know what to do anymore. If I think about it, I do love her still, and we were together for almost 5 years prior to getting married... I think I am just confused about this because my current relationship was in some trouble recently and we're working on fixing the things that went wrong... I just don't know what to do anymore... I have been avoiding her for the last 8 days and she's still pretty persistent about it.

Any ideas or comments?

[Thinker2255]

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[liz28]

Have you ever told her that your just friends and nothing more? If you have and she's pushing the issues still then I think you should keep doing what your doing. She might be jealous about your new relationship and probably waiting for a problem to arise so she could take her chance at another shot with you.

All relationship have problems but as long as your can pull through them you can survive. Is this the only relationship you had since your divorce?

[GW28]

Oh, believe me... I'm not kidding myself about this. I remember exactly why we parted ways before... the girl that I'm with now is nothing like her and doesn't mind if I come in after a hard day at work and just chill out without saying anything to her... so believe me, I don't think in a million years it will work. She doesn't really know what is going on with my relationship now, she just knows that we had an argument.

I did indeed tell her that we were just friends and I want nothing more than that. She's psyco though.

[Thinker2255]

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[liz28]

I don't think it's uncommon for some people to remain friends with their exes, as long as no lines are cross. He stated he been with hi girlfriend for 6 years and only brought up her feelings after he most likely went to her for advise but instead she confessed her feelings for him. He was confused at first but decided to work on his relationship and has stop all communication from the ex for the past 8 days but she still being a pest and won't take the hint after he told her their nothing more between them. That's what I got from the post and response to sum it up. To the op continue having no contact with her. At least she live another state so don' have to worry about her showing up at your door since she is psycho.

[Thinker2255]

If she is bugging you to the point of insanity, given your current stress level, change some things. Block her number for a while and change your email. Little things like that. As liz pointed out, thankfully she lives too far away to have to resort to a restraining order.

[talaniman]

You should have ended the contact years ago, and kept her out of your business. Do so now, and don't respond to her at all. You left the door open, and now you must close it for good.