Originally Posted by
girlygirl08
I'm 17 years old and i been dating my boyfriend who is 19 for 3 years.. I thought we were being careful but i just found out that i'm 10 weeks pregnant. He is steping up to the responsibility we just got an apartment he has a job but i don't because i need to finish my senior year of high school. i am not sure how we will provide for our child. Adoption and abortion are not options. I am keeping my child. How can we make ends meat? any suggestions or success stories??
It's good to hear that at the very least he's going to be there for you and your child.
Depending on how much he's able to make at his current job he may have to work a second job to keep up with the financial obligations... I would encourage that if it's possible.
You should also try to find a part time job and work until you need to stop for the baby... Try to use this money to save as much as you can. Often times there are unexpected expenses and no one can every have too much emergency cash.
Like others have said You will qualify for WIC, please take advantage of this (I know a couple of girls that can get it but refuse to take a "hand out"... this is not the attitude for a mother to have)
If your family are willing and able to help with furniture, baby clothes, bottles, a crib, car seat etc. Don't be ashamed to take a hand me down.
Also you can go to your local health department to get help there (someone please correct me if Im wrong).
Assuming you have a determined and good hearted boyfriend, I wish you guys the best and I hope that you can return to school (go to college or vocational school) once your baby is born and old enough for childcare.
The best tip I can give:
Just try to remember to be loving, considerate and supportive of each other ex...
If he has to work 2 or 3 jobs to support you and the baby consider that before there's an argument about how he's too lazy to help around the house... on the other hand, If you are tired from being with the baby all day and keeping the house tidy he shouldn't put you down if you need to take a break from cooking a couple nights of the week. If you two can keep those things (being loving, considerate and supportive) as priorities I think you'll have a good foundation to build from.