Unsure how to carry on!
:confused: :confused: Hi All
Well after weeks of unhappiness and quite a few tears and heartbreak, and much more, after my partner of 18 years wanted to break up, she moved out, came back , moved out and came back again.
Its been a little more than a week now that she is back and we have talked and came both to an agreement that we both want to continue our relationship and work on it one step at a time. We both agreed that we have our independence but making sure that we spend a lot of time working on us.
ONLY - she still goes out a lot, with a mutual friend, to Private Art Reviews and the like, I have absolutely no objections to that at all, as I find them boring, BUT this "Friend" text my Partner all day and night, for this and that, and my Partner jumps to her every need. I have asked her if there is anything going on, she said no, its just this friend feels very lonely and down, and she needs help and support. I then asked her in order to work on our relationship we need to find time to do it and if she could tune it down and spend more time with me. My partner than said that she would but every time this "friend" text my Partner asks me if I mind that she goes and sees her. I asked her even if I mind would she go anyway, and the answer was "Yes". She swears there is nothing going on, she is just a friend in need, BUt my question is - How do I state the fact to my partner that if she really wants this relationship to continue she has to start spending the time to work with me. And let this "friend" go a bit. Every time I do mention this my Partner is on one
I am trying so hard not to loose it - but I don't know how much longer I can.
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