First, let go of the "the one" idea. There's no such thing. There is a group of guys out there you are attracted to. Within that group is a subset who would make a good match for you, and within that group are the awesome "ones" that you could live a blissful existence with.
So, there are many men that can fit that bill. The attraction and your "list" is just part of it.
A LOT of things other than your list have to come together to make a life-bond possible. You have to be at the same point in life, both available, have the financial wherewithal to pursue it, AND geographical proximity is usually necessary, too.
It sounds like this guy is "close", but you are still complete strangers. It takes months of face-to-face examination to determine if the guy you're seeing is being real because guys can be "the fun dating guy" for upwards of a year sometimes before their real personality can be determined.
The problem isn't the good times, it's finding out how a person is when things are bad. The day to day jealousies, arguments, oversights, rudenesses, inconsiderations... all the things that can only occur when you're dating a real person in real life. A long distance relationship or internet mate frequently is missing ALL of these scenarios so you have no idea what to expect.
If you want to pursue a real examination of whether you and this guy could make a "go", you first need to solve the geography thing. You just do. Life is sacrifice. He's in school, so I doubt he can move. But you can.
And if you opt to do it, DON'T be overly melodramatic about it. He won't owe you ANYTHING once you get there. You're moving to go find out if things "could" work out. He isn't remotely a sure-thing yet and you know that, right?
On the other hand. A year from now he graduates and is guaranteed to move away from school. It would be just as reasonable for him to move close to you at that point. You can continue as polite pen-pal relationship until then, can't you?
If this doesn't work out or you opt not to pursue it, don't get mealancholy about it. OK? He isn't "the one" and you missed him. "The one" is the title you give to the guy who was there for you for 40 years, through all the bad times, and he never stopped sacrificing for you. "The one" is a title a man earns, not something that a newly met attraction already is. Never is it that.
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