[talaniman]

I think you should apologize for the red box.

You made it personal with your reddie so you first! We can debate all day, but why take it personal?? I have never attacked you, that's your opinion also.

[smoothy]

Deal with it. Not all women want to or are willing to be someone's booty call until the ring is on the finger. Maybe she see's something you aren't recognising.

Respect her wishes or find a new girl friend/ concubine.

Just because she won't put out now doesn't mean she won't make a great wife or be great in bed after you are married.

[Choux]

****ADULTS DATING for a YEAR****

Time to take the relationship to another level. :)

[talaniman]

Time to take the relationship to another level. :)

That's up to them BOTH!

[amber55]

Hoping I can get some advice, I've been dating my girlfriend for almost a year now, and every other aspect of our relationship is dead on, we click almost on every level. That being said, there is one aspect of our relationship we don't have, a sex life. We have no intimacy at all beyond kissing and cuddling. We are both in our 20's, and she herself is still a virgin. I have been talking to her about this, though I haven't been pressuring her, but I can only wait so long before I know I myself am not going to care anymore and that will be the end of us, but I don't want that. When we talk about having sex, she doesnt seem to know the reason as to why she doesnt want it herself. I am not sure if its just her being a virgin shes scared, or if there simply is no sex drive (limbido) there. A few times when we have been making out I've tried to innocently see if I could advance a little, and all that happens is she moves my hands away and says no. I've been sitting on the side lines for almost a year now hoping she'd get more confortable and curious and want to engage in sex, but that doesnt seem to be working, is there anything I can do to help our relationship develop a healthy sex life?:confused:

Time. She isn't ready and you have to respect her for that. If you are the one, how special will that be? Be patient..

[Choux]

**HE ASKED FOR THE ADVICE**... correct, **HE** has to put the *quality moves* on this ADULT woman... if she wants to be seduced AFTER THIS LONG YEAR OF COURTSHIP, she will accept his invitation. :D

Viva l'amour!

Apology, please, tallyman.

[Choux]

talaniman disagrees: What lousy advice to young people, "grow up and give it up," that's shameful.

This is what you are to apologize for.

[smoothy]

How many date rapes have been attributed to a guy that thinks a woman can be persuaded into putting out when she obviously isn't ready to?

That's more the point. They may both be adults but if they both don't want to do this it's a gnats hair from being a rape. I'm not saying this is the case, but if the guy doesn't take a step back when the woman says no it can happen all to easily.

[Choux]

Sex is implied when going on a weekend trip with a man... if she doesn't want to have sex, she won't go!!

Smoky, this is not your discussion. :)

[talaniman]

Choux]**HE ASKED FOR THE ADVICE**... correct,

Correct

**HE** has to put the *quality moves* on this ADULT woman

Where is that written?

... if she wants to be seduced AFTER THIS LONG YEAR OF COURTSHIP, she will accept his invitation. :D

Which she hasn't!!!!

Viva l'amour!

Que sera, sera!!

Apology, please, tallyman.

I don't think so!:mad:

[talaniman]

Sex is implied when going on a weekend trip with a man....if she doesn't want to have sex, she won't go!!!

Smoky, this is not your discussion. :)

Smoky??

I thought every one was free to comment, are you off your meds?:confused:

[Choux]

"talaniman disagrees: What lousy advice to young people, "grow up and give it up," thats shameful."

THIS IS WHAT YOU OWE ME AN APOLOGY FOR, TALLYMAN.

[Synnen]

If you don't both shut up and quit arguing in SOMEONE ELSE'S question, I will delete ALL of your advice, from both of you, from this entire question.

ENOUGH.

You disagree, you both played with reddies, and now you are BOTH being jerks about it.

I don't care who started it... it's now DONE.

Talk to the OP, not to each other, and you can still post in this thread. Be mean to each other in even ONE MORE POST in this thread, and you will BOTH have ALL of your posts deleted.

I don't want an apology from either of you---though I do think that some of the advice given in this thread was apalling--I just want the arguing to stop unless you either a) take it to PMs or b) take it to a member's discussion thread. All you are doing at this point is hijacking the OPs thread. Take the discussion about whether they were good answers to another thread.

[Choux]

You're the boss.

[sifty]

What a load of pish my missus of 7 years seems to think sex only involves me doing everything and she doesn't have to do anything,The only sexual contact I get is me touching her never ever the other way round and when I try to talk to her about it I get called a pervert. THe only hand that's touched me sexually in years is mine and oral is a thing of distant memory with other women, &yeasr is a long time to put up with getting nothing The very few times we do have sex I might as well be poking a HOLE IN THE MATTRESS and then to top it off iI get abuse for being rubbish! No bloody wonder There's nothing in it for me. Wake up women effort goes both ways
She's also told me I'm THE ONE and that I'm the only partner she's had that she doesn't do these things with. Lucky bloody me if that's what being THE ONE means then send me back to single land where at least I might get laid more than once every couple of months (if I'm lucky) and it might actually involve more than just me!
How long does it take for someone to realise that there own inactions are driving their partner away!
And before you say talk to her about it that just gets her angry and starts the name calling.

[Synnen]

This thread is over a year old.

Please watch dates.

Thread closed.