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    Cassie Posts: 150, Reputation: 46
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    #41

    Jul 14, 2006, 10:06 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Shakeh
    thanks again dear Cassie for every of your kind words,i know exactly what you mean Hanging to our feelings..Im scared to let them go now ,because im afraid to lost them throughout my life and to feel empty of that great love. tomorrow is my sisters birthday and we can't imagine to celebrate it in our home without our moms smile and kindness,we must think about it to do something that will comfort us.
    Believe me, you will never feel empty of that great love of your mothers. It was a gift she gave you, she left it with you to keep forever. Your heart is filled with love for her. You are a product of her life's work. I even see my mother in my daughters. She gave them love and sound advice and good memories.
    To feel as strongly for her as you do, she had to have been a wonderful woman and gave you many emotional gifts.
    As for tomarrow, what would she want you to do. Not be sad. One thing we did when we needed comfort was to get out old pictures, sit on the floor looking at them, laughing about the fun we had here and there and would stop and talk about a memory of something she did or said, whether is was funny, sad, or good sound advice.
    Let her live through you girls through happiness and joy, not sadness and sorrow. Give her a gift of reliving the good times and thanking her for them.

    This seemed to get longer than I thought, but my heart does feel for you.
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    #42

    Jul 14, 2006, 10:27 AM
    Dear cassie ,
    Thanks for taking time to read my relpies,you gave me a very nice idea,
    Pray for me please .
    And Have a nice day.
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    #43

    Jul 14, 2006, 10:52 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Shakeh
    Dear cassie ,
    thanks for taking time to read my relpies,you gave me a very nice idea,
    Pray for me please .
    and Have a nice day.
    Please let me know how tomarrow turns out. I will certainly be glad to say a prayer for you and your sister. Bless you
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    Jul 18, 2006, 11:12 AM
    The birthday turns out in with a mix of sadness and some happy moments also.
    We made a great effort to not be too sad .thanks a lot dear Cassie.
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    Jul 20, 2006, 10:58 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Shakeh
    the birthday turns out in with a mix of sadness and some happy moments also.
    We made a great effort to not be too sad .thanks a lot dear Cassie.
    Believe me each year gets easier. You will always remember her and sometimes want to have her comforting touch or words. As I said before, I believe mom's send angels in different forms to help us through hard times. I send you hugs.
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    Nov 6, 2006, 06:45 PM
    I'm truly sorry for your loss. There are no words to express my sympathy to you.
    I just lost my beloved mother 1 month ago today and I am having an extremely hard time coming to terms with it.

    This is not the first time I've lost a love one. My brother passed away 8 years ago at the tender age of 36 from Pancreatic Cancer. It was hard then and it still hurts to think that he's gone.

    Time does not heal all wounds, but time does make it easier to cope.
    In time you will find your own way to deal with your loss.

    ;)
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    Nov 12, 2006, 11:45 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Shakeh
    I lost my mother three days ago,although I am 40 years of old but can't cope with my mother lose ,I found her dead sitting in her chair after I returned from shopping ,so she was alone when died and this really scares me ,I feel that I never can deal with her absence,Im afraid to close my eyes and sleep because I might see my mother complaining from dying alone I have feelings of sadness and depression and I really need help.
    Shakeh
    I'm really sorry about your loss, but try to hang on to the good memories of your mom. Know also that she is with you and watching your sadness is not what she wants. There will probably never be a time you won't miss here and right now the loss feels unbearable, but believe now that she's in a place with no pain or sickness, she's finally found total peace. And know that she is with you and wants you to be happy. I lost my mother when I was 18, she was in the hospital for months with bone cancer and I couldn't go see her after a certain point, but I called her everyday, when she past on, I thought how could this happen, but new doors open and her memory is always with me. Try to relax, read, meditate, do something for you now, and hang in there!! Hope this helps,
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    Nov 14, 2006, 03:50 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by dignaavila
    I'm truely sorry for your loss. There are no words to express my sympathy to you.
    I just lost my beloved mother 1 month ago today and I am having an extremely hard time coming to terms with it.

    This is not the first time I've lost a love one. My brother passed away 8 years ago at the tender age of 36 from Pancreatic Cancer. It was hard then and it still hurts to think that he's gone.

    Time does not heal all wounds, but time does make it easier to cope.
    In time you will find your own way to deal with your loss.

    ;)
    No, time doesn't heal all, nor would we want it to. The death of one we truly love is not something to get over, but we do eventually learn to live with it. In my own case, it freed me from a lot of foolish pride and taught me a certain kind of humility in the face of the inevitable losses and tragedies of life. None of us are immune to these things, and learning the lessons they can teach makes us stronger, and better able to help and comfort others when they happen.

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