[theconfusedguy]

I have posted a few times about my girlfriend who I have been trying to fix things with. I'm starting to think my feelings are starting to fade based on all the stuff she has put me through. I feel as of now she is using me to pay her bills although she said she isn't. I happened to text her friend that that is what I'm beginning to feel and she read the text message and she felt hurt I would say something like that. Well the problem is Monday she is telling me she is considering being my girlfriend again , etc. Then we have a fight and then I read a text from her friend who asked her if she was seriously considering me for a boyfriend again. She responded with a maybe why? Then her friend goes into this thing about how a few hours ago she was saying that I bothered her and that she was using me to help pay her bills. She didn't respond to that but said I don't see how this is any of your concern. Well her friend told her that if she is considering me for a future relationship that she needs to watch hurting me and then her final text on that subject was, I really don't know what I want. You know I have been with this girl for 2 1/2 years and I would have never of thought once that she would ever use me for money. I haven't felt that and even with a text where her friend is saying that to her I still in my heart feel that isn't the case. It's hard to tell with text because you don't know the background and don't know if she was saying that to get answers for me or what. So recently I have just let it go but what has been bugging me is we have been working at this for quiet a while now. She says she is confused and doesn't know what she wants. We were talking about it and she blurted out how can I love someone else if I don't love myself. So I think there is some deeper issues that are going on here. I don't know she keeps telling me that it isn't me and that it is her. She also has a lot of bills she is worried about and stressed. It's been something I been fighting with for a while. I mean I know bills stress you out and so on but I don't think it justifys taking it out on the person you are with. I have been told less is more and I beginning to realize that. It seems to me that she takes for granted the things I do for her. I mean I text her sweet things telling her about how beautiful she is and how I'm here to support her. I get her things here and there to make her happy and help with bills and I think she just takes it for granted. I don't think she realizes how many guys aren't like me out there, most of them would rather ignore and not care about the problems their girl goes through because it really doesn't do much for their life. Anyway, I don't know what to do anymore, I care about her a lot, but I think whatever she blames me for in the relationship should be let go after 3 months of me doing whatever it takes for her. I'm getting to the point where I'm like OK, I need my respect and you need to give it to me because I'm tired of begging and trying to make things right when the problem is obviously her at this point and not letting go. Anyway any suggestions would be great. Thanks

[talaniman]

Well the problem is Monday she is telling me she is considering being my girlfriend again , etc.

Ouch!! This may hurt a little,

By T-Man, May 17th,
Your solution is simple, get busy building a life you enjoy without her, and let her entertain herself. Whether its intentional or not, she is stringing you along, and your letting her. Love yourself enough to stand up for yourself. You keep your dignity, and self respect, by following your own path, and not be available for her entertainment. Say nothing, just disappear. Let her deal with getting older on her own.

I have read all your other posts as well. You have written nothing to change my original post. Sorry guy she may have been wrong at one time, but your efforts are wasted on this one.

Why are you still on her path??