[Princess-IMYM]

Me and Ree are closer than molecules in a solid (the only thing I could think of that was incredibly close) Her parents split last year (I think) and her boyfriend dumped her, so she went into depression and self harmed, and started smoking.
She got out of that pit and has never, ever self harmed again, and she's happy and eccentric just like me once more, however she still smoked.
I didn't mind, since she never smoked around us and she didn't seem that much different, but lately she's been acting strange.
She leaves our group of friends spontaneously, to go and scrounge for cigarettes from some of her 'sort-of' friends at school, and then when we go out, she drags us to a smoking area and has 1-3 cigarets in a row, when we leave, about 15 minutes later she drags us back.
She's become addicted, and that's not what I'm majorly concerned about, because I've tried and tried to get her to stop but she won't, what I AM concerned about is that fact she isn't even bothering to come over and say hello to me anymore, she's just going for a smoke every chance she gets, (at school) this is really making me distraught because we're so close (we call each other wife), our friendship is the only thing that makes me happy enough to keep up my usual fun-ness, today I was irritated and depressed because she hadn't even bothered to say hello.
Im not clingy (I hope) but if I just got a "hi" from her when I said hello, I would have been set for the day.
What should I do about this? I know she still loves me (friend way) but it's getting ridiculous! She told us she wants a short, but good life : Death at 40. Drugs, smoking and sex. That's what she wants, and she's only 14!:(

[IheartEdward]

Sounds to me like you need to really properly talk to her and if she doesn't want to listen (I know this sounds horrible) but I would tell someone that she will listen to.
I've had friends going into ciggerettes, booze and drugs and as I watch them over the years I've seen it has change them for the worst and its caused me to loose them as good friends. I think smoking is a horrible thing and unless you want to risk losing you frinedship I would start to talk to her seriously if I were you.

Good luck.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

I agree... these things are harmful... and the two main reasons (from my experience) that teens start to abuse these things are 1. Peer Pressure 2. To relieve stress. Neither is going to benefit the person in the long run. You need to show her that you are concerned, and that smoking is bad for you... Even if you need to pull up some statistics and print them off to show her. Prove to her that you care.

[andy305mia]

Me and Ree are closer than molecules in a solid (the only thing i could think of that was incredibly close) Her parents split last year (i think) and her boyfriend dumped her, so she went into depression and self harmed, and started smoking.
She got out of that pit and has never, ever self harmed again, and she's happy and eccentric just like me once more, however she still smoked.
I didnt mind, since she never smoked around us and she didnt seem that much different, but lately she's been acting strange.
She leaves our group of friends spontaneously, to go and scrounge for cigarettes from some of her 'sort-of' friends at school, and then when we go out, she drags us to a smoking area and has 1-3 cigarets in a row, when we leave, about 15 minutes later she drags us back.
She's become addicted, and thats not what im majorly concerned about, because i've tried and tried to get her to stop but she won't, what i AM concerned about is that fact she isnt even bothering to come over and say hello to me anymore, she's just going for a smoke every chance she gets, (at school) this is really making me distraught because we're so close (we call each other wife), our friendship is the only thing that makes me happy enough to keep up my usual fun-ness, today i was irritated and depressed because she hadnt even bothered to say hello.
Im not clingy (i hope) but if i just got a "hi" from her when i said hello, i would have been set for the day.
What should i do about this? I know she still loves me (friend way) but it's getting ridiculous! She told us she wants a short, but good life : Death at 40. drugs, smoking and sex. thats what she wants, and she's only 14!:(

This happened to my ex's friend. What I think you should do is don't hang around with her anymore. Cause one day she is going to try 2 influence you to do these things. And real friends wouldn't do these things. You just keep hanging around with the people you usually hang around with. But she might get a little mad cause you don't hang out with her anymore. Then you ask her "whats more important sex, and smoking or our relationship." and if she is really good friends she would stop smoking but if you keeps smoking and having sex then you no she isn't your friend.

[Fr_Chuck]

Also realise that friends sometimes change, some for the better others for the worst. She is making some choices, you can ask her and try and help her but if she wishes to do things that are wrong, you can't really stop her, at times, you have to let them go and hope they will someday come back.

[Princess-IMYM]

She tells me to hang out with her and those people, but they are violent, and I tell her "i'd rather live than die trying to make friends with people i dont like" since my asthma has become worse over the past few months.
We're all right sort of, I haven't gone out with her in over a month and I only see her mornings, and Norris (one of our friends) said that the atmosphere around her and those people is want-to-get-away-from-here-quick.
She's missing out on lunch as well, she says smoking fills her up, I don't understand how that works, smoke goes into the lungs, not the stomach.
She has dumped her boyfriend for her Ex, the one that made her self harm, we're all supportive for her on this and are ready to catch her if she falls. But its still rather sad being unable to see her all the time.

[liz28]

Sometimes people have to make their own mistakes before they learn or a hard wake-up call. These people she seem to be hanging around is no good. Is her parents involved with her because if you could see a change in her, and you're her frieng, her parents should be able to see something,if they care. I'm 28 and my mother can still read me like a book and knows when something wrong.

You stay doing the right things and don't follow anyone that's doing wrong, you seem to have a good head on your shoulders, stay that way. You don't have to stop being her friend, because this all might be a phrase or not, but just let her pull you in to this lifestyle of hers, but it don't seem she could. When people change for the worst they have to want to change for the better, only then will they change.

[Princess-IMYM]

She sees her mam when it's the school holidays, she lives in a caravan with no internet so we have to text and I don't get signal at home, and her dad is focused on sorting out money problems with the bank, he's not neglecting her, he just doesn't have enough time to have a heart to heart with her.
Norris is starting to go with her now, which is affecting my other best friend because she and him were close, and now he never sees her, its taking a toll on our group, we're starting to get at each other because the size has decreased so much over the past few months.

[scronklover]

Everybody changes, but they don't always think or realize they are hurting other people. Have you told her how you felt about her addiction? If she knows how you truly feel, she might try to change, at least a little.It's wortha try. She might think you are okay with it, even if you aren't. It's worth a try.
Good Luck!

[Princess-IMYM]

I thought we were getting better, but its gotten worse now.
I hadn't seen her for 3 days straight and when we had a lesson together we hardly spoke, I don't think our friendship is going to last as long as we thought it would, and when one of our friends asked her to stay with us for a few minutes she said "Smoking is more important than friends" she's taking us for granted.