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percyballs · Mar 8, 2006, 01:16 PM

When I was younger I always seemed to know what to do. Now, I feel like I don't have a clue.

I met this guy on a dating service. We had our second date this past Sat. He orig. wanted to go out Fri but, he called on Thurs and I didn't speak to him till Fri.
Question... When it comes to calling, is it a turn off for me to initiate a call this early in our "relationdhip". I know it's not even a relationship. My Southern Belle roommate says she never calls a guy in the beginning and after that she rarely initiates a call. Should a new dating couple take turns initiating calls. Will he think I am not interested if I don't initiate when it's my turn?

Oh.. percyballs is the name of my dog... LOL

confuzed · Mar 8, 2006, 01:54 PM

I don't think us girls calling is a problem as long as it is not overdone. IE Calling excessively. I am in a new relationship and I call but not every single day (we both lead busy lives) and it is about the same vise versa. It seems to be working out pretty well and he seems to appreciate it when I give him a call.

Fr_Chuck · Mar 8, 2006, 02:24 PM

It really depend on the guy and his culture and beliefs, perosnally I would find it great.

Wildcat21 · Mar 8, 2006, 03:36 PM

I think you should call once in while, but, obviously, not every day. He should be calling you - I agree.

fredg · Mar 9, 2006, 06:22 AM

Hi, Percyballs,
Thanks for asking a question here, and Welcome to this site.
Your "Southern Belle" friend is telling you what the traditions are in the South, as well as maybe some other places also.
I am 64 yrs old, married 29 yrs to a wonderful woman. Even many, many years ago, before we were married, she would call me also; when we first met. We met in VA.
Who is going to call is up to you. There is nothing wrong with you calling him.
How many times? It's up to you also. If you don't want to call him, wait a couple of days, see if he calls you. If he doesn't, then call him, ask how he's doing, etc, You will get the "message" one way or another if he likes you, and can also be deciding if you like him.
The reason I knew at earlier ages "what to do", I thought I knew most everything when I was much younger. The older I get, the more I know I don't know!

iamarcin · Mar 9, 2006, 09:18 AM

Depends on how the date went
Did he promise to call
Did he give you his number or mention it
Do you have other ways of comunication that would be more casual
I always believed that instant mesengers are great in the beginning of the relationship
I'm a guy and wouldn't expect your call
Living in ny 22 years old

Matt3046 · Mar 29, 2007, 11:37 AM

Call, I am a firm believer that you must get what you want and need.
On and this is too personal to require an answer, but I can tell you if you "sleep" with a guy too soon,we have a tendency to act like this. But it is something psychological, it's his problem. But look even if you don't connect with him, you should still try to spend some time with him he might have a friend you do connect with.