[why_me]

I was recently married to a wonderful man but I WEIGH 270 pounds... we are both young and i can't help but think my husband would like to have a very intimate night with me but they don't make any ''sexy'' outfits for women my size. At least i can't find anywhere where they do. I want to spice up our sex life so i don't lose his interest but my weight and size almost make it impossible. And just simply losing weight is not an answer because i have a type of cancer that prevents me from losing any weight at this time no matter how hard i try. Is there anyone out there that can relate or give advice? Would be greatly appriciated!:)

[Fr_Chuck]

Not sure why you can't find any ( OK not in Walmart) but in most "plus size" stores in most major malls.

Also there are 100's of places online

http://www.lingerieatlarge.com/?OVRA...OVMTC=standard

http://www.queenfashions.com/plus_si...OVMTC=standard

http://www.glamour-lingerie-bras.com/


Next the real problem is not your weight, not your husband, and not that you can't find any sexy outfits, come to bed just wearing his tie, that is always a start. There are body paints if you are into that

Next you feel you can't be sexy I think, you have this all wrong, if your husband wanted you the way you are, he wants you the way you are, and actually ( not always) if you got to 105 pounds he may lose interest then.

There is no one type, some men will like a women if she has a 48 bust but not smaller, others want a certain leg type. Others only like women over 250 pouds or even over 300 pounds

First you have to find yourself sexy, no matter what your weight, you have to be happy with yourself the way you are.

[scaredgal]

Hey there. I am also a plus sized woman. I am about 240 currently. I was up to 309 last year. I have battled with thyroid issues for years so I am finally losing now. I feel your pain. I am a very romantic person who enjoys having those intimate moments with my fiancé but it is harder to do as a bigger girl.

The sites FR CHUCK listed are great ones I also will add a couple I use. You have to keep in mind HE LOVES YOU JUST LIKE YOU ARE. Obviously he finds you sexy or he wouldn't have married you. I am sure no matter what you wear he sees you as lovely. I have gone and still go through the insecure feelings about my size compared to the standard beauty but you have to remember that is YOUR hang up not HIS. If he wanted a girl that was tiny then he wouldn't have fallen in love with you.

Good luck :)

www.queenfashions.com , www.mysizeintimates.com , www.heavenlylacelingerie.com

[fredg]

Hi,
I would like to "second" all the answers you have received, on being accepted as you are; and, you have accepted your husband as he is.
I've been married now for 29 yrs (2nd. Marriage) to a wonderful woman. We both accept each other as we are, and really enjoy being together.
There are many magazines or catalogs that have "big" sizes for women, like Roamans, and others. The online sites given look good, too.
I do wish you and him the very best.

[phillysteakandcheese]

Also...

Being sexy is an attitude as well. Your state of mind will play a big part of how you feel and present yourself. You might be playful one day, more dominant the next, a little submissive after that... these kinds of things can add variety and spice to your sex life!

Men also like to hear some feedback on how they're doing... ;) You don't have to make yourself moan and scream like a pr0n star, but letting your partner know they are doing the right things can go along way!

[cowgirlupmay23]

Not that this has anything to do with this forum but, I wanted to know how you got diagnosed for your thyroid issues. I will be 40 in May and my weight keeps going up and up. I am not at 210, you wouldn't know it to look at me though. Even my Dr. has said that. I had my thyroid checked last year. I have stomach problems on a daily basis too. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

[fredg]

Hi,
I suggest a Gastroenterologist. My wife went to one, finally, after having stomach problems for a few years. Two different doctors over time could not find anything wrong.
This specialist found stomach bacteria, using a scope, and will medications, it was gone in 15 days!
Your thyroid issues would first be looked at by a doctor taking a blood sample, then analyzing it. There are different ranges for the thyroid analyses.
Best of luck.

[ldecook]

Back to the sexiness issue -- I hear from a very good source that the biggest turn on for a man is a woman who makes it clear he is completely irresistible.

[O_Troubles]

Hey worst case senario take up sewing for fun make something sexy for yourself the way you want it and it will be awsome a fun home progect both you and your partner can get into -pardon the pun ;)