[paige_lover_13]

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a month. I thought everything was cool between us.on myspace I always told her I love u. well last Friday she wrote me a note saying that she doesn't think she likes me. I really love this girl with all my heart and I want to get back together with her but I don't know how. Should I leave her a note in her locker saying that I'm sorry I love you. I don't know what to. Please help me

[CaptainForest]

You are a child (teenager or less).

How do I know? Because you say you love her. You have only been dating for 1 month, you can't possibly love her. You are perhaps lusting after her, but you can't know if you love her after 1 month.

If she doesn't think she likes you, its going to be an uphill battle for you. That's not to say you shouldn't try. Perhaps talk to her, go out alone with her somewhere. But in the end, if she's not into it, you will recover from it.

[paige_lover_13]

OK but what do I talk to her about

[fredg]

Hi,
Ask her questions about herself. What do you like doing? Where do you like to go? Like the movies? Find out things about her, then when she is telling you all about herself, SMILE all the time you are listening to her. People really like it when someone listens to them.
After awhile, she will want to know more about you. But, first, ask her questions about her. She will know you are interested in her.
Best of luck.

[Chery]

Gosh, I don't know how we older people managed to have relationships, meet people, and survived without those 'chat rooms'.
Get off them, and talk to people so that they can see you and read your 'body language'. That's the only way to meet people and really get to know them. It might be cool to your peers, and the 'present fad', but this will pass and you'll eventually have to communicate 'face to face'.

As far as being in love, honey - you've got a long way to go before you can use that phrase and really, really mean it. Like about 10 more serious years of falling down, and then picking yourself up again. This is all the normal way of growing up and getting strong enough. Also the only way in learning a lot about the 'opposite sex' and their moods, and what particular type you are attracted to..

You will have many more relationships (some lustful experiments - so please be respectful enough to protect you and the young ladies) and DON'T use the phrase lightly. It's cool to tell someone that you love this and that about them, or love what they say or do, and how - but to outright say 'I love you' too many times - then you will not be taken serious now, or later.

Again, this is the time in your life to 'test the waters' and get to know what your attractions and tastes are - while doing this be as respectful and compassionate as possible - and when parting ( and you will part, many times) keep it civil and try to remain friends. There is no place in your life to be 'stuck' or 'jealous' right now.

You should consider your education and goals for the future and what you will have to offer for yourself and eventually someone else in your life. But until then, please keep it safe and be kind.


Life is still ahead of you, and too short for 'melodramatics' that don't do anyone any good - it just creates undue stress. But remember - nobody has died of a broken heart yet - not at your age - unless they are unstable to begin with. So please take it slow and careful.

[talaniman]

If she knows she doesn't like you I doubt there is anything you could say or do that will change her mind. Accept her feeling and move on with your life and find someone else.:cool: