[magprob]

Because it is worth it! My first wife would rather climb up a tree to tell me a lie than stand on the ground and tell the truth. I honestly tried everything to please her but it did not work. When we split, I nearly died. Did a lot of stupid things I am very ashamed of: however, if I had only known how much better things would be in just a few short years... I would have just relaxed and let go sooner. Divorce is a ***** but it is a sign that you are not living up to your greatest potential. Unless of course you marry on the rebound. That I am afraid, would be like getting stuck in a self perpetuating HELL! If you are newly divorced, do not use your kids a wedge to get to your ex spouse, they will always remember it! Just try hard to live a good life. After all, the only revenge is to live a good, happy life. I don't know what this has to do with anything but I said it anyway... so there!:rolleyes:

[Fr_Chuck]

I wish you would not be so shy and tell us how you really feel.
** something my son says when I am being very open.

But the real issue is why a person marries a person who is like that. Do they not take enough time and get to know the real person before they are married. If a person lies after marriage, they were lying before marriage, if they spend too much money before the wedding, they will after the wdding.


But I am glad you have found peace and happiness

[fredg]

Hi, mag,
I went through a divorce, after 7 yrs of marriage, back in 1974. It wasn't fun, but at least it was "friendly", but both of us had different lawyers. Divorce, just like marriage, is a two-way street. It's takes two people to Divorce, just as it takes two to get married.
Don't blame yourself, and as you said, it takes time. Unfortunately, children, in some Divorces, suffer the most.
It was 3 years later, when I re-married, and now has been 29 yrs to a wonderful woman. I learned a lot from the 1st. Marriage. It takes compromise.
A good rule-of-thumb is to wait at least 2 years before getting married again. It gives time to get over stuff, and start life over again, with a much better outlook.

[magprob]

Yes you're right Fr Chuck, they were probably just as undesirable before you marry them. It's just that lust has a way of masking it'self as love. I guess when the lust finally wears off... what are you left with? Someone that snores like a chain saw and bad breath to boot. You better be truly in love to put up with another persons bad points. We all have them... it is a two way street. I'm glad you found it Fred. It's nice to be with some one that feels like a comfortable pair of slippers. No worries that they are lying or cheating. In my case, I found someone just like me. Piss and vinegar we Irish are known for. She just happens to have a bit more vineger, than I, at 49 have piss left. We get along like the best of friends-first. You got to like them, then if love happens... OH YEA!:p