[cat in the hat]

Can I give up rights as a father after a paternity was giving and not pay child support

[NowWhat]

Just because you give up your rights - does not mean you don't pay support.

[J_9]

Can i give up rights as a father after a paternity was giving and not pay child support

Nope. You can give up your rights as to decision making, but you can't give up your financial obligations. By having intercourse you made the decision to bring a child into the world, now you must deal with the consequences.

[ScottGem]

I've moved this to the Family Law area where you will find hundreds of thread asking the same question and getting the same answer. I suggest looking through them.

State laws vary and some states do terminate parental obligations along with parental rights. But in those states, its even harder to get a TPR. The bottomline is that a TRP will generally be granted in only two instances. Either to clear the way for an adoption or because the parent represents a danger to the child. It will not be granted to allow the parent to get out of paying support.

You should have thought of the posibility of supporting a child BEFORE you decided to have sex. As I've frequently said, NO ONE should engage in sexual intercourse unless they are financiallly and emotionally ready to have a child.

[Tugboat]

Geezo... what the flip is wrong with people?? Think of the poor kid for once in your life and not yourself. The kid did not ask to be born. Step up to the plate and be responsible and think about what you will inflict on this child if you DISOWN it! Raising kids is expensive. Be a man regardless of how you feel about the woman.

[twinkiedooter]

Just giving up your right to visit with the child is one thing, you can't just give up the obligation to support the child. It's not that easy or all the deadbeat fathers/mothers would surely sign up for that program in a heartbeat.

[CAndC]

Geezo...what the flip is wrong with people??? Think of the poor kid for once in your life and not yourself. The kid did not ask to be born. Step up to the plate and be responsible and think about what you will inflict on this child if you DISOWN it! Raising kids is expensive. Be a man regardless of how you feel about the woman.

I would ask the same question, what is wrong with people? This person is facing 20 years of fatherhood and child support and may not be in a position to handle it or is simply panicking and upset over the destruction of hopes and dreams that will now make way for a child. Guys generally don't ask such questions because they are concerned about the money, they are concerned about how their future has been altered.

If this was a young girl saying she was pregnant and couldn't handle it, many people would be falling over themselves to offer supportive words. This guy comments on money, but you don't know his situation, it could be that is all that he has to focus on right now, so that is what he reacts over.

Show some compassion.

The truth is simple. He will live up to his obligations simply because he has to. There are no options. The previous poster said it best, no man should have sex without being financially and emotionally ready to support a child.

To the OP, take the time to think over your situation. While you may not feel ready to support a child, you don't have this choice. You do have a choice to try be a positive father figure in the child's life and there are very few things that are as rewarding as being a parent.

Oh, and you probably want to speak to a lawyer and get real advice.