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    Ashley_Nicole19 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    May 11, 2008, 10:58 AM
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    So I am 18 with a 9 moth old baby girl. I love her to death, but sometimes I wonder if I made the right choice in keeping her. It is really hard to be a teen mother but her father helps so much but it is still really hard. DOES IT GET EASIER?
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    May 11, 2008, 11:11 AM
    I'm not a teen mother but everything will get easier with time. She will learn a lot more things as she gets older. She will be able to do things on her own that you do for her at the moment.
    Hope your feeling OK
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    May 11, 2008, 12:45 PM
    Well that is a yes and no, it just gets different, and that will also depend if you have any more children also.

    But you have potty training, starting to walk and then running around, so you worry about what they will get into, worry about them running off in a store. Then they start climbing trees, then they start school and you worry about grades. They they set fire to the school ( OK maybe not that just wanted to see if anyone still reading) but you have cupcakes to made with at 8 pm when they forget to tell you ahead of time, and they are due in the morning. And then they start driving, and drive off alone for the first time, then the first overnight when you don't know where they are, and then they move out,

    And of course it really gets bad when they move back in latter.

    But schedules, routines, finding easy ways to do things make life a lot easier
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    May 11, 2008, 08:30 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ashley_Nicole19
    So I am 18 with a 9 moth old baby girl. i love her to death, but sometimes I wonder if I made the right choice in keepin her. It is really hard to be a teen mother but her father helps so much but it is still really hard. DOES IT GET EASIER??
    Ashley, I think it does get easier. I was 19 with my first and it was better and better with time. FrChuck is right with the right routines, it will be easier.
    Normal routine bed times, wake up times, eating and snacking. When you say no, mean it, when you say yes, follow through. It all adds up in the long run and you all will benefit. Good luck and if you ever need any specific help, you can come here... there are many loving mothers and fathers that know a lot about parenting and good suggestions to make it easier and more fulfilling! Hugs!
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    May 17, 2008, 11:00 PM
    It does get better, just wait it out. My son is almost 2 and I feel like it took forever, but now I can't even remember all the sleepless nights and constant attention I had to give to him. He walks and talks and says I love you, and in no time you will be feeling great about the decision you made, because its probably one of the best ones you'll ever make.
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    May 17, 2008, 11:02 PM
    You made the right choice by keeping your baby. It is always the hardest with your first one. Your getting lots of help. No one said it would be easy, does it get easier, it sure does. It takes time and patience.
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    May 19, 2008, 06:57 PM
    It doesn't get easier, but you get better yourself at dealing with the stresses. A child goes through so many stages and their needs constantly adapt, it is critical that you develop this thick skin. Your choice to parent them means you are the anchor to their sense of security and confidence for years to come.

    Keep in touch, let us know if you need ideas.
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    May 22, 2008, 07:47 AM
    I agree with Fr. Chuck. Does it get easier, yes and no.

    For me, infancy was easy. When she hit 3 - a little sketchy. Now that she is 7 going on 16 - it is a struggle.
    Would I change ANY of it? NO!

    Just stay on course - you will get the hang of it and find your groove. Make sure your child is on a schedule - stick to it. I promise, it will make things easier for you. Just enjoy each stage that you get to - it does pass so fast. I also promise - you WILL miss this!
    (Hey, isn't that a song?) :)
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    May 25, 2008, 03:24 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by Ashley_Nicole19
    So I am 18 with a 9 moth old baby girl. i love her to death, but sometimes I wonder if I made the right choice in keepin her. It is really hard to be a teen mother but her father helps so much but it is still really hard. DOES IT GET EASIER??
    I had my daughter at 19 and was alone single at the time so I know what you are going through, as other posts have said, it does get easier but other things come in too i.e. walking, the wrecking of your house, potty training, etc. I always wondered about "the right decision" when I decided to keep my daughter as I was beginning a career in the army at the time, and however hard I found it, the smile from her first thing in the morning was enough to convince me that I made the right decision. I made it through though and my daughter is now 5 I found a nice man who sees my daughter as his own and we are married and now have a son together too. Things will get easier but only because you will learn to deal with things better. You may be missing out on things that your friends are doing, like a social life, but there not getting the joys of motherhood, chin up hun, you will be fine.
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    May 26, 2008, 03:55 PM
    Things will get easier for you. Right now everything is stressing you out. Being a new mother is always hard. Just remember this, you have someone in your life who you can give unconditional love, attention, and affection all you want. You will always be a mother, a loving mother. Nothing and no one can ever take this privilege away from you. Believe me, it is all worth it in the end.

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