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    May 9, 2008, 01:33 PM
    Woman falls in love with married man on marriage site.
    I recently started visiting a muslims marriage site I thought at first the men were not that intresting I was just mesing about I'm 22 and yet I met a man who was perfect he was 20 years old and I fell head over heels in, love with this man in one meeting although it sound impossible I felt very sexually aroused but in a safe way I never have had sex but this man I wanted to do it all for some reason.He never turned up after having a cyber sex and casual dating talk we seemed perfect he liked what I liked.Until I began starting to search him on sites he's face came up with a woman she was wearig a scarf I assumed it was his mother to my amazment it was his fiancée who in 2006 was engaed to him I was not distraught as I though that why he was so evasive.But more recently I can't stop thinking about him our sexual joy was so complete and fulfilling and I was not all about the sex he wanted to chat I don't know if he got married to early or if he is divorced I told him from the off that I really liked him I have never had cyber sex with anyone and had such a experience of fulfillment all I want to know is does he want me and can I have him .if so will it work out because I'm going out of my mind then it hits that he's married if I carry on like this ill go mad.He has not been on since but I just can forget will he cheat on me too?he said he was stable I can't get why he said all those things and started to talk to me and did not even say something I would have been happy to be friends .and it would have stopped all these felling that I'm having
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    May 9, 2008, 01:35 PM
    Woman falls in love with married man on marriage site.
    I recently started visiting a muslims marriage site I thought at first the men were not that interesting I was just messing about I'm 22 and yet I met a man who was perfect he was 20 years old and I fell head over heels in, love with this man in one meeting although it sound impossible I felt very sexually aroused but in a safe way I never have had sex but this man I wanted to do it all for some reason.He never turned up after having a cyber sex and casual dating talk we seemed perfect he liked what I liked.Until I began starting to search him on sites he's face came up with a woman she was wearig a scarf I assumed it was his mother to my amazement it was his fiancée who in 2006 was engaed to him I was not distraught as I though that why he was so evasive.But more recently I can't stop thinking about him our sexual joy was so complete and fulfilling and I was not all about the sex he wanted to chat I don't know if he got married to early or if he is divorced I told him from the off that I really liked him I have never had cyber sex with anyone and had such a experience of fulfillment all I want to know is does he want me and can I have him .if so will it work out because I'm going out of my mind then it hits that he's married if I carry on like this ill go mad.He has not been on since but I just can forget will he cheat on me too?he said he was stable I can't get why he said all those things and started to talk to me and did not even say something I would have been happy to be friends .and it would have stopped all these felling that I'm having
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    May 9, 2008, 01:47 PM
    [QUOTE=nadiarab]I recently started visiting a muslims marriage site I thought at first the men were not that interesting I was just messing about I'm 22 and yet I met a man who was perfect he was 20 years old and I fell head over heels in, love with this man in one meeting although it sound impossible I felt very sexually aroused but in a safe way I never have had sex but this man I wanted to do it all for some reason.He never turned up after having a cyber sex and casual dating talk we seemed perfect he liked what I liked.Until I began starting to search him on sites he's face came up with a woman she was wearig a scarf I assumed it was his mother to my amazement it was his fiancée who in 2006 was engaed to him I was not distraught as I though that why he was so evasive.But more recently I can't stop thinking about him our sexual joy was so complete and fulfilling and I was not all about the sex he wanted to chat I don't know if he got married to early or if he is divorced I told him from the off that I really liked him I have never had cyber sex with anyone and had such a experience of fulfillment all I want to know is does he want me and can I have him .if so will it work out because I'm going out of my mind then it hits that he's married if I carry on like this ill go mad.He has not been on since but I just can forget will he cheat on me too?he said he was stable I can't get why he said all those things and started to talk to me and did not even say something I would have been happy to be friends .and it would have stopped all these fellings that I am having.
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    May 9, 2008, 05:03 PM
    Uhhh he's married... and looking... something about this already seems like he's a cheater... oh yeah it's that he's married... and looking. Of course he's going to use you.
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    May 9, 2008, 06:02 PM
    All you're doing is masturbating with an electronic assistant. There's no such thing as Cyber-sex, it's another one of those made-up terms for something we do to fool ourselves. In the end, it's you alone in a room.

    So, sex by yourself with a stranger on a comp. screen is now your idea of the best relationship you wish to strive for? If so, well, it doesn't matter if he's married or not, this is all self-gratification so his reality has about zero meaning.

    When you step back and decide you want a real-life relationship with a real-life person, I'd expect the guy who is spending all the time online doing the same thing you're doing is NOT the kind of guy you would have in mind for that new relationship. Even I would hope for better for you.

    So, enjoy your online private time with yourself and whoever happens to be on the other end until such time as you're ready for real life again. On that day, come back here and we can help you with some ideas to reconnect to real people.
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    May 10, 2008, 07:34 AM
    OK
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    May 10, 2008, 07:42 AM
    He didn't tell me I had to Google him and I saw a pic from 2006 with his wife I have now reported him.The pic with his wife in the café was the same one he put up in the muslim marriage site! But he was alone but in the same café what a tard
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    May 10, 2008, 08:03 AM
    So you have seen him, at least on video. The reason I say this, some men, ( even worst) use someone else's photo they find on the web and cut and paste it and even use other names to hide who they really are.
    These people play a role on comuter but ask for but never do real meetings.

    Also it could be him and he really could be divorced, if you never asked him, if he is separated or divorced ( I know separated is not right either) but the photo you saw was 2 years old, many marriages don't last that long any longer.

    Now most likely he was married and was looking for some computer sex type thing because he has a porn addition. If you were exposing yourself over the computer video I would be more worried now about those pictures being saved on his computer, being sold on porn sites or more.
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    May 10, 2008, 08:09 AM
    Well its hard to say i was really in to it he wanted me to web cam i was looking for marriage initially he turned it in to sex i can t say today although he checked his mail i asked what the flamming hell is going on he did not reply hes arab i think he wants a second wife although this is allowed i islam i find it disgusting i have seen him on my space, faceboom and net log it's the same info over and over again and he ahs not one pic but many like more than enough to say who he is i thoughti was in love with him but today i found out what a yellow coward he really is as he never relpied back also hes still on the marriage site , even though i reported this tard im sick of him now i have vandetta i fell really sorry for his wife who seems she's not even from america and fr_chuck that's the perfect solution thanks i had not though about those things!
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    May 10, 2008, 08:11 AM
    I Don't Think Hes Divorced Cos Every Time I Tried To Dicuss The Possibility Of What We Were All Like I Asked Him What Is Going On Here All The Other Men I Talk To Ask About My Education And Say No Swearing Or Sex Talk Every Time I Would Ask Him About Us And Posible Of Tyaking A Next Step In To A Fromal Adult Thing Such As Marriage He Would Slide And Slip Back In To Something Else
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    May 10, 2008, 09:42 AM
    I hope you have learned a lot from this experience, and apply a lot more caution in the future. Not only caution, but good common sense, and not fall so hard for someone on the net you haven't met, or know nothing about. There are many predators out there, who prey on needy, naïve people. Take care.
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    May 10, 2008, 10:23 AM
    I know I'm over it now thank god I feel as thouh I just saved my own life
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    May 10, 2008, 10:30 AM
    Look at the pain this guy has cost you just from what you post here and you've NEVER even met him. That alone is a problem On top that he's married... and looking. That is a not a problem, that's a deal breaker.

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