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KrayzieChick · Feb 22, 2006, 09:48 AM

I am 20 years old and I have only been with 1 guy. I am not in love with him anymore and need to move on. The crazy part is that I kissed one of his friends and I felt something. I have been friends with this guy for over 3 years and I always had a little crush on him. How do I tell him I like him and that I felt something with out becoming vulnerable with my feelings. We have not talked about the kiss/ make out at all. I am so shy I don't know what to do!! Help me

mr.yet · Feb 22, 2006, 10:01 AM

Honesty is always best, have a talk with him, he may feel the same way, remember honesty will always help in any matter.

KrayzieChick · Feb 22, 2006, 10:06 AM

But I'm so shy I don't know how to tell him with out making a fool of myself and stuttering my words and such

mr.yet · Feb 22, 2006, 10:08 AM

Is this someone you hangout with? Try just going out to a movie or dinner and see what developes.

KrayzieChick · Feb 22, 2006, 10:13 AM

He's my brothers roommate and my ex-boyfriends friend. When we kissed we were both drunk but I knew what was going on and I could sense the awkwardness the next weekend. I think it would be weird for me to ask him out on a date if it was just a "drunken" kiss how can I figure it out with out putting my whole heart out there

mr.yet · Feb 22, 2006, 10:18 AM

Tough spot here, I don't know what to tell you, if you still hangout, just see what develops. BUt if this is someone you want to get to know be honest.

Chery · Feb 22, 2006, 10:28 AM

Originally Posted by KrayzieChick

But i'm so shy i don't know how to tell him with out making a fool of myself and stuttering my words and such

Dear, apparently you were not too shy to kiss him, so take it step by step, and if he calls go out with him and just be yourself. You said you've been friends for years, so he probably knows that you are not prone to rush into things and will understand you already. So, if he does ask you out, go for it. If he takes too long to ask you, then ask him to join you at a movie or a pizza - the only thing that can happen is a 'no' for an answer and/or a response for a 'raincheck'. Nobody has died from the 'no' answers yet, and he will probably be the best person for you to be yourself around. As has been mentioned before, honesty is the best policy. That way nobody needs to play games and can enjoy each other's company without the added stress.

Good luck, and please keep us posted on your progress.

Life is too short to keep on wondering what could have been if you don't take that chance.

Wildcat21 · Feb 22, 2006, 10:54 AM

Hey Chery - see drinking was involved so she was a lot more open.

KrayzieChick - Do you have his direct e-mail? Get it from your brother if you don't.

Send him and just say - hey what's up, remind him of something funny that happened that night or that you had a good time that night. Don't share your feelings. E-mail is great because the person doesn't have to answer right away, you can get a feeling on he feels - especially if he responds.

I wouldn't share my feelings with him right away. In my book it's a bad idea. You share how you feel too soon and you could spoil things as they develop.

Wildcat21 · Feb 22, 2006, 10:58 AM

Plus the e-mail shows interest.

Chery · Feb 22, 2006, 11:01 AM

Originally Posted by Wildcat21

Hey Chery - see drinking was involved so she was a lot more open.

KrayzieChick - Do you have his direct e-mail? Get it from your brother if you don't.

Send him and just say - hey what's up, remind him of something funny that happened that night or that you had a good time that night. Don't share your feelings. E-mail is great because the person doesn't have to answer right away, you can get a feeling on he feels - especially if he responds.

I wouldn't share my feelings with him right away. I my book it's a bad idea. You share how you feel too soon and you could spoil things as they develop.

Got to agree with you Wildcat, emailing and maybe calling casually will help her in finding out if he's as interested as she is. There is no need to feel ashamed for that drunken kiss, as many get there that way the first time.

Good luck, I hope he answers those emails and calls back. Will cross my fingers big-time!

Wildcat21 · Feb 22, 2006, 11:25 AM

Met several great ladies after a drunken kiss.

The key is not to rush things. Maybe he is a little shy?

Don't be surprised if he doesn't answer though. There is major guy code not to date ex's of friends - just a warning.