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nova225 · May 1, 2008, 06:31 AM

My ex BF and I have been friends for 4 years, and we still keep in touch. Our friendship has been an on and off relationship/friendship for years. We would stop calling each other (because we were young and stupid), and then we would hook back up. My brother friends would play on the phone when he would call and say "we are busy," and he would stop calling again. I actually ask him to break up with me (because he had a new GF), but he told me no. It had nothing to do with my feeling because they were already hurt when he stopped calling me at first.

Throughout our friendship we have both had other relationships, but we somehow end up kissing each other all over again. I'm currently single, but he has a GF and he always wants to come see me (but something always comes up).

I feel that our relationship isn't finished yet, because I was his first love and he was mine (but we never got a chance to tell each while we were dating). I'm not stuck on stupid or anything-----I have moved on-----but I feel that we are meant to be, and cupid isn't finished with us yet.

Maybe I'm just tripping... am I?? :confused:

bigbird213 · May 1, 2008, 06:34 AM

Originally Posted by nova225

I'm not stuck on stupid or anything-----I have moved on-----but I feel that we are meant to be, and cupid isn't finished with us yet.

It doesn't quite sound like you have moved on.

The impression I get is that he is just keeping you around. He is dragging you along so your there when he needs you, and he knows he doesn't need to contribute anything. You don't deserve this, I'd leave him alone.

talaniman · May 1, 2008, 06:40 AM

I think it rather unhealthy to be thinking you've moved on, and still wanting this unfinished relationship. Your both playing with each other for sure, and at the expense of any partners you have. Looks like you both will cheat with each other, no matter the partners. That's not healthy, and this has to be resolved in an adult manner.

nova225 · May 1, 2008, 06:58 AM

I understand where you guys are coming from, but I would never cheat on anyone with him. The kiss we shared were after we got out of a relationship. I honestly feel that he really doesn't need to keep me around because he has a GF, and he has a career that makes all the girls want him (he's a rapper & and he just shot a video to his new song). Out of all my ex BF's he was the only one who repected me while we were together, and after we broke up.

I've taken your advice into consideration, and I feel that I am over him... but I might be in denial.

talaniman · May 1, 2008, 07:53 AM

Then you should let him go. It's that simple, but may not be that easy, I know.

Handyman2007 · May 1, 2008, 09:33 AM

YOu don't mention how old you are but get a life and move on. The two of you are just playing games with each other. It's safe for both of you to be with each other and that is why you tend to get "back" together. He doesn't have time? Something always comes up? You are being "kept" arounbd for his benefit. Move on. There is so much more to life and relationships.

liz28 · May 1, 2008, 07:17 PM

My question is how can you ask him to break up with you when he already moved on and have a girlfriend. You two are playing the cat and mouse game and eventually the mouse gets caught. You need to find someone who wants you and not play childish games and accept that he move on and do the same. You sound a little confuse because it seems to me you think he still your man when you referred to him as your ex. That's all he is your ex because he got an girlfriend you should follow and get a boyfriend.

Kevin_s · May 1, 2008, 10:27 PM

Like everyone else has said, you need to move on. If this was healthy, you wouldn't be on this site asking for help (which we are very good at by the way! =] ) I'm pretty everyone would agree and understand that if you aren't together with another person, and then they have a new gf/bf that your relationship is dead.

He likes knowing you'll come to him when he wants, and you're being sucked in to being held on a leash. It's happened to the best and smartest of us because sometimes what we want cancels out the reality of the situation (blinded by love.)

Find someone that appreciates you and isn't just looking for a backup plan, and stop talking to this "rapper" (what's his rap name?) He's not healthy for you to be around.

Kevin

serena6878 · May 1, 2008, 10:34 PM

I agree with above who advise you to move on.
But I want to let you know that when you said, "Cupid isn't finished with us yet", I am moved by the simple sentence. I sincerely hope you are meant to be together later.