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spyked1130 · Apr 25, 2008, 06:56 AM

Having a hard time figuring out if I should have my 15 year old daughter attend my wedding to another women. Would like some feed back regarding this issue.

HistorianChick · Apr 25, 2008, 06:58 AM

Without hardly any background information on your problem, it's a little difficult to form an opinion and give advice... but... off the bat, my opinion is that if you want her to be involved in the life of you and your new bride in the future, then yes, I'd say that you should have her there...

Can you give us a bit more information?

Emland · Apr 25, 2008, 09:01 AM

I think the person you should be asking is your daughter.

Becca1025 · Apr 25, 2008, 03:50 PM

My father remarried when I was 15, and I HAD to go to the wedding. I was living with him and he basically made me go. I hated being there. But we probably had a different situation then you do with your daughter. Since my father did not ask me if I wanted to go or not, and I did not want to, then my advice to you should be ASK your daughter.

Fr_Chuck · Apr 25, 2008, 04:00 PM

Well "to another women" I would hope she has meet, had a chance to know, perhaps did some activities with both of you. So this "another women" should be well known to her and you should know how they get together.

You should invite but not force her to go.

IheartEdward · Apr 28, 2008, 11:40 AM

Ask her.

DEBBIE44 · Aug 30, 2008, 06:22 AM

It is hard for a girl to see her father with another woman. You can't leave her out but you can give her the option. Just tell her you are getting married and that you would love her to be there but if she chooses not to let her know you understand and that daddy still loves her anyway.

dontknownuthin · Sep 3, 2008, 01:50 PM

You should invite her and involve her to the degree she is comfortable. If she wishes not to come, don't guilt her about it. Just tell her, "If you decide to come even at teh very very last minute, you are welcome and I will be thrilled to have you there. But I know this might be difficult/awkward for you and am not going to force you to come".

You don't have to tolerate disrespect but she has the right to disapprove or not participate. I don't say that just because it's a same-sex marriage but rather because most children want their parents to be married to one another, not to someone else. It may take her years to accept your relationship if she objects to it now. In my opinion if you respect her views without tolerating disrespect or rudeness to you or your partner, you are paving the way for her to see in a non-threatening way how important the relationship is to you.

Talk to her on an adult level but don't expect her to be an adult.