[bohemian1]

[B]I work for this family as their nanny... we have this "best family-best nanny ever" relationship. Isn't been longer, but I'm getting this strong feeling that the father likes me. I don't want to be in such position.. I love my job and want to keep it or leave it with grace and respect. But how to tell if this situation is just a fiction or if it's real. The father tends to be very nice and talkative some days and very quiet and serious the other days. He smiles at me and I've caught him staring at me and turning away as soon as I saw him. A couple times he's done some stuff like being without a shirt while handing me the baby, knowing exactly that he could've been fully dressed up; once he was just being wrapped on a towel. Man, I felt so embarrassed but I thought, well, the baby is crying. The other night, they had a dinner and I babysat for them. I was getting ready to leave and he came up to me to pay me and when I was explaining how long it took for the baby to fell asleep, he touched my check, (his wife and friends were just a few steps away at the dinner table).. I don't know, sometimes this makes me want to quit, but again, what if I'm wrong? They take me on family trips, and they both are very nice to me, they take care of me as a family member. BUT I've recently started to noticed that the mother is changing her attitude a little bit. She seems a bit more serious, when she used to be more friendly and liked to ask me about random stuff.
What can I do?

[talaniman]

How long have you worked for them? Do you know any one who has worked for them before?

[bohemian1]

I've been working for them a little over six months and yes, I do know their previous nanny and she never had the same situation.

[Fr_Chuck]

It does sound like he has ideas that are not professional.

[bohemian1]

So you think I should consider quitting my job?!

[simoneaugie]

He may have a crush on you. People are not struck blind, even though married. Talk to him about it. Tell him what you told us, that you really like working for them but feel like things have changed.

Don't keep it a secret. If you're straight up with him, he may stop the behavior which makes you uncomfortable. He may not realize that you feel uneasy. If his wife's behavior has changed, if she suspects that something is going on, something probably is.

Talking to her about it will suck you into the topic of their marriage. So leave her out of it. Tell him how you feel and see what he does with the information.

[COOKIE MONSTER]

Hun if your not happy you should find anew job and leave

How long have you worked for them?
And are you a live in nanny?

[bohemian1]

I am not that comfortable coming up and tell him how I feel about the situation, because I have this slight confusion... I love the kid, and he loves me back... for a nanny is difficult to just change a job, there are so many things and feelings involved between the nanny and the kids. But I guess I'm just not lucky. I'm going to have to assume and start finding another job.

[talaniman]

You don't need to be in any confusing, or uncomfortable positions, on the job.