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    eric1361 Posts: 69, Reputation: 3
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    Apr 14, 2008, 03:34 PM
    She rude or don't respect me?
    I'm 46, she's 39. Been dating for 3 plus yrs, she won't reply to 90% of my texts or calls, even if I say I love you or miss you. She will rarely. When she works she leaves at 6pm and only then on her way to work will she call me, the rest of the day she's sleeping, smoking, talking to kids, dogs, TV, whatever. But can't find 30 sec to say hi, tells me to grow up. That I should be happy with her calling me on her way to work. I do everything for her and her family and I deserve more then a phone call on her way to work, she's came to my house to see me probably 10 times in 3 plus yrs. I've told her how I feel and she says adults don't act like I do, that I should be happy and accept what she gives me, plus sex once every 2 months. Because she don't want to. She called just now and I won't answer, I'm done texting and giving in, is she rude, selfish, what?
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    spartan24018 Posts: 61, Reputation: 12
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    Apr 14, 2008, 03:45 PM
    She is basically treating you like a little kid and mostly disregarding your personal needs. It also is rude because she is acting like you should be glad she is even calling you (just in my opinion) and talking to you. You deserve more than what she gives you, have a sincere talk with her about this. Tell her adults have needs too and she should stop treating you like a little kid. Good luck, my friend. Keep me posted
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    eric1361 Posts: 69, Reputation: 3
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    Apr 14, 2008, 03:55 PM
    I just told her and she says she don't have time for my crap. So I said BYE. The last time we had sex it was her ideal and 2 minutes into it she turns the TV on and starts watching it. So I got up and went home, she wanted to know what was wrong. Her thing is no one tels her what to do, I think she has issues.
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    simoneaugie Posts: 2,490, Reputation: 438
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    Apr 14, 2008, 04:07 PM
    She doesn't understand you, doesn't want to. Her interpersonal needs are different from yours. You guys are incompatible, at least unless she is willing to talk about your needs with you.

    Find someone different, more like you. She isn't a bad person. She is just very different from you. Your sexual needs are important too. You are not being childish, you are being a human being with needs and feelings.
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    N0help4u Posts: 19,823, Reputation: 2035
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    Apr 14, 2008, 06:17 PM
    Why you still with her!? Move on! Find somebody that appreciates you!
    She is self centered and it will always be about her and her only!
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    Apr 15, 2008, 05:38 PM
    I'm done texting and giving in, is she rude, selfish, what?
    And you put up with this for how long? She would never see me again. Ever!
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    Apr 16, 2008, 09:12 AM
    Why are you still with her?
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    Apr 16, 2008, 09:49 AM
    She's pretty much a gold digger then. Your all over her and she takes your help and love when she wants it. If you don't live together or have any tie's like a child then break it off.
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    jolienoire Posts: 917, Reputation: 166
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    Apr 16, 2008, 10:00 AM
    Doesn't matter the age, it's the situation that seems unbalanced. Bottom line is let her go, she is the one who is acting childish with her lack of communication and selfish way of thinking. If you know you want more, and she can't give you what you need hurry and shut the door on this one, so that two more can open.

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