[bellababy60]

My "lover"/"companion" (M/F) and I have been "on and off" in our "relationship" for about 4 months. We fight and get back together. We have built up a strong bond during that time. He has his reasons for not wanting a having a committed relationship right now, as well as I do. We both agree on that and believe that there is a possibility in the future for this... just not right now. (He just went through a divorce. I've been separated for two years with no hopes of reconciliation with another man) Ok. So, here is my question. Our relationship is firm and solid right now. It took a lot of effort on my part to get it to this point and I do not want to destroy it. For those of you who have read my previous posts... I learned of his on-line activity regarding "porn". He has a very high libido, as well as I. He has never "experimented" with any type of sexual fantasies that he has. I know that he desires other women... but he will not cheat on me. (His ex-wife cheated on him) His fantasy is this: He would like to see me "engage" in sexual activity with another woman. I am not a lesbian, but I have had fantasies myself about this. I've never experienced a sexual encounter with another woman, but if I do, it would be to please his curiousity as well as mine. We agreed to set boundaries for all parties involved. My question is this... am I setting myself up for perpetual demise? And, if we do this... will he expect more, or maybe even have a stronger desire to be with another woman? Has anyone ever experienced this type of open relationship and if so, what are the possible consequences that we might encounter as a result of our actions? Should we just "go with the flow"... and make this an unconditional desire? I know it sounds like a lot to ask of my readers... but I really, really love this man. Any suggestions are welcome. Thank you in advance for your courteous and thoughtful responses...

[Sarah48375]

I know a woman who did this. It was a huge mistake. He eventually ended up cheating on her. Granted, it was the three together... no actually sex between between her boyfriend and this other person, butIt opened the door, and the relationship to fall apart. I'm not saying that would happen to everyone, but that's what happen to my friend.

[bellababy60]

I'm leaning towards that answer... I guess since I have a strong "apprehension" about it... it might be a good idea to forget about it. I have a feeling that I would ultimately lose him... in the end. Thank you.

[talaniman]

I have been "on and off" in our "relationship" for about 4 months.

Doesn't sound that solid, nor can the bond be that strong, so to start with experiments and exploring, I think is way to early, and to soon. That on again off again stuff, isn't a replacement for love, trust, and understanding, based on mutual commitment. What's the hurry, give this a lot more time, and thought. Like 6 months, and see how you feel. Sounds sexy and hot now, but can be degrading later when its to late.

[bellababy60]

I suppose stating that my current love affair really isn't as "solid" as I make it sound. We did discuss this... and after further consideration, have decided to put it on hold for now.
Thank you for your responses.