[workedtoohard]

I have question. If you do the following you are GUARANTEED to have a girl you are dating love you (assuming you pass the initial looks and career part). Agree or Disagree?

1. You make a point to go to spots you like with or without her, and reject one of her favorite spots every now and then. Do not hang out with her friends unless she will hang out with yours.

2. Never act jealous. No matter what. Girls can't get over the fact you aren't jealous. I have heard countless stories of girls cheating on jealous guys. They always say jealousy drove them to it.

3. Cancel the 3rd date with a vague response "something came up, no time to talk". Then cancel every 6th or so date.

4. No emotion if she dumps you or picks a fight. The key to avoiding conflict is quiet, agree with it (fine do what you want), and avoidance. They want to test you to see if you are weak enough to argue with their ridiculous problems, etc.

5. Don’t tell her your secrets.

6. Turn down her second offer for sexual favors. They will remember you forever. Its tough.

7. When she demands something unreasonable, NEVER give in to her. Popcorn? Picking her up food when she doesn't want to? Don't do it. Major weakness.

Summary: Respect/challenge keeps interest and prevents cheating.

I learned all of these from my ex complaining/admiring her new boyfriend and from other sites on the net. The ONLY problem with this message board is the POSSIBILITY we are being too trustful of FATE. Maybe a game or two in the beginning is worth the pay off. Maybe, just maybe we can learn from both perspectives ("nice", "not nice" on the situation.)

[jamimama]

I have question. If you do the following you are GUARANTEED to have a girl you are dating love you (assuming you pass the initial looks and career part). Agree or Disagree?

1. You make a point to go to spots you like with or without her, and reject one of her favorite spots every now and then. Do not hang out with her friends unless she will hang out with yours.

2. Never act jealous. No matter what. Girls can't get over the fact you aren't jealous. I have heard countless stories of girls cheating on jealous guys. They always say jealousy drove them to it.

3. Cancel the 3rd date with a vague response "something came up, no time to talk". Then cancel every 6th or so date.

4. No emotion if she dumps you or picks a fight. The key to avoiding conflict is quiet, agree with it (fine do what you want), and avoidance. They want to test you to see if you are weak enough to argue with their ridiculous problems, etc.

5. Don't tell her your secrets.

6. Turn down her second offer for sexual favors. They will remember you forever. Its tough.

7. When she demands something unreasonable, NEVER give in to her. Popcorn? Picking her up food when she doesn't want to? Don't do it. Major weakness.

Summary: Respect/challenge keeps interest and prevents cheating.

I learned all of these from my ex complaining/admiring her new boyfriend and from other sites on the net. The ONLY problem with this message board is the POSSIBILITY we are being too trustful of FATE. Maybe a game or two in the beginning is worth the pay off. Maybe, just maybe we can learn from both perspectives ("nice", "not nice" on the situation.)

I can't detect whether you're being sarcastic with some of these. This seems like an outline of how to be manipulative rather than how to get a girl to love you. Pardon me for thinking that falling in love is a bit more complicated and personal.

[HistorianChick]

I think you're a day late on this one, hon... April Fools was yesterday... :)

EDIT::

Sorry, you asked if we agree or disagree. I disagree. When you play a game there is always a loser.

[Scleros]

I learned all of these ... from other sites on the net.

The things you've been reading have the goal of generating attraction to get you laid. You want things that are "GUARANTEED to have a girl you are dating love you". Don't confuse the two. There are no guarantees. Every day is a new opportunity to blow it. Whatever worked in your favor last week may not this week. Just be yourself, requires less thought and effort long term.

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

I TOTALLY disagree with this one. I'm sorry but this is the worst dating rules I have ever heard.

Are these rules suppose to be for men that are dating or men that are in fully committed relationships?

[spitvenom]

A woman would not deal with that for a second. But what do I know I have only been with the same girl for 5 years and we are engaged now.

[amricca]

I disagree with all of those as general rules. One or more may apply to a certain person or situation but in general I think any of those would get you dumped.

[idunnodude101]

From my experience. I think its all kind of true. But I think you can only do that early on... sooner or later you should slowly let your guard down

[kp2171]

Forgot step one: insert head up arse.

[idunnodude101]

Oh also like to say I think that's all more impt to girls who get a lot of attention from guys already. Youhave to really play it right with them or else you'd just be any other guy to them

[talaniman]

Sorry, but I disagree, I hope you didn't pay any money for what you got. Now if you want some real advice, stick around.

[workedtoohard]

I was just saying that the "Nice guy/girl, just be yourself" routine might be balanced with a some LIGHT tactics. I didn't say kill their best friend so they will come to you to mourn. Calm down a little people.

[Marriedguy]

I disagree! I actually never seen someone be so wrong. This guide works only if you do the exact opposite of what it says. Check the list again and make some little tweaks.

For example 1. You make a point to go to spots she likes , and reject your favorite spots every now and then. Do not hang out with her friends unless she with you.

See that's all better now.

[nickshehe]

I think these apply for younger people.. When indeed games are played..
So I'm not agreeing or disagreeing.
Or applying it to my relationships..

[friend4u178]

If you want an honest trusting relationship games won't work in the long run... FULLSTOP!!

[confused25]

I have question. If you do the following you are GUARANTEED to have a girl you are dating love you (assuming you pass the initial looks and career part). Agree or Disagree?

Well I'm going to go a little easy on you because I know where you're coming from. Not all these rules are necessarily bad, but like someone else mentioned they need some serious tweaking. On top of that, these "rules" apply more to the dating phase. Once you get into the relationship it's a whole new ball game. Here we go.

1. You make a point to go to spots you like with or without her, and reject one of her favorite spots every now and then. Do not hang out with her friends unless she will hang out with yours.

You should always be your own person and have your own life, especially while you are just dating. By all means go out with your friends and visit places you want to go without your girlfriend. But remember, its all about balancing your alone time as well as time with your significant other. Moreover, this whole thing about not hanging out with friends, forget that. If she refuses to hang out with your friends than you need to communicate with her about the problem. If she still doesn't accept your friends, than maybe its time to find someone else.

2. Never act jealous. No matter what. Girls can't get over the fact you aren't jealous. I have heard countless stories of girls cheating on jealous guys. They always say jealousy drove them to it.

I agree with this one! Never be jealous. You must always trust your partner, without trust the relationship is doomed to fail.

3. Cancel the 3rd date with a vague response "something came up, no time to talk". Then cancel every 6th or so date.

You're making it sound like there is a scientific formula to dating and relationships. There isn't, so forget this garbage. You should never cancel a date unless an emergency or something really important occurs. I understand that the chase and challenge are important, but how about just keeping yourself busy with other aspects of your life. If you do this than you simply won't be able to go on too many dates, which in turn will make your partner want to see you even more.

4. No emotion if she dumps you or picks a fight. The key to avoiding conflict is quiet, agree with it (fine do what you want), and avoidance. They want to test you to see if you are weak enough to argue with their ridiculous problems, etc.

Never avoid a problem. This will only create more headaches. If a conflict occurs you should stay calm and be as understanding as possible. Take the time to listen to her point of view and make sure to also voice your opinions. In a relationship you must both learn to compromise. Be compassionate and loving, very different from not showing emotion.

5. Don't tell her your secrets.

Well, when you first start dating you should definitely keep your cards close to your chest. During the dating phase you are both just beginning to learn about one another, so its both fair and good to be cautious when it comes to sharing personal secrets. Also, at this point you two are building trust, so don't ever lie when you are asked a question, just let her know that you are not ready to talk about that particular topic but in time you will be. On the other side of the coin it's also worth mentioning that you risk scaring the other person away by divulging too much information, so just go slow. However, once you get into a full-fledged relationship you can no longer keep secrets. Your partner needs and deserves to know what's going on. Secrets will destroy trust, which in turn will destroy the relationship.

6. Turn down her second offer for sexual favors. They will remember you forever. Its tough.

Sorry, I don't see anything good in this one. Best to forget about this little rule.

7. When she demands something unreasonable, NEVER give in to her. Popcorn? Picking her up food when she doesn't want to? Don't do it. Major weakness.

I'll agree with this one. If she is being clearly unreasonable about something than you have to put your foot down. This is especially important in the beginning of the relationship because you have to show her that you won't allow her to walk all over you. However, choose your battles wisely, sometimes its best to let things slide. For example, if she desperately wants a particular flavor of popcorn, while you want a different flavor, well than you would be wise to get the flavor she wants. A better idea would be to come up with a compromise.

Summary: Respect/challenge keeps interest and prevents cheating.

Don't forget compassion, understanding, trust, compromise, communication, love, and a bunch of other stuff. Unfortunately, there is no simple set of rules that will guarantee the success of a relationship. There are some guidelines you can follow, but in the end it all comes down to finding the right balance that satisfies both you and your partner.