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salliw · Feb 8, 2006, 10:47 AM

My daughter is pregnant and her boyfriend, the father of her baby is controlling verbaly abusive. They broke up last night and I'm glad. Will they get back together? Will he be at the birth? Will she give the baby his last name? Will he go away out of her and the baby's life forever? I hope!

CaptainForest · Feb 8, 2006, 10:54 AM

May I suggest that you have a hear to hear conversation with your daughter about why this man shouldn't be in her life and why the baby shouldn't be given this mans last name.

As her father, she might listen to you.

salliw · Feb 8, 2006, 10:58 AM

I did she won't listen to anyone.

CaptainForest · Feb 8, 2006, 11:01 AM

Who does she trust?

Perhaps a friend who she would listen to?

Try to talk to this friend to talk with her. Or take your daughter to a battered woman's shelter to see what some husbands do to their wives. From them, she might get a whole new outlook on it.

salliw · Feb 8, 2006, 11:21 AM

She has actually told me, oh mom he would never HIT me. He yells at her. And is very jealous. I told he if she marries him it will just be a matter of time. We would like to do something legaly but she is 18 and hard headed. This whole situation breaks my heart every day. She has no friends anymore. And the only friend she does have is his cusion who introduced them together.

CaptainForest · Feb 8, 2006, 11:31 AM

That is so sad.

Take her to a battered woman's shelter to see what some husbands do to their wives.

They can tell her how they also never thought their husbands would beat them.

That might help in changing her mind.

salliw · Feb 8, 2006, 11:41 AM

You have a great idea. Thanks a lot

Fr_Chuck · Feb 8, 2006, 01:16 PM

That is a very great ID Captain, I never thought about that before, we take kids to jailo or prisons, we take some drug uses to homeless shelters.

I don't know how old this person is, but verbally abuse turns into physical most of the time. Plus does a baby need to live in ahome with all of this abuse

Zipper · Feb 11, 2006, 07:09 PM

Your daughter has made her choice but for the baby's sake, especially in those early vulnerable months she needs to face reality - if he shouts now, what potentially could happen when she has less time for him due to the baby? It could become a target and be harmed.