What to do?

LaBoy985 · Feb 6, 2006, 11:41 AM

Ya I'm 17 and my ex is 18... We had been dating for 5 months and just recently broke up.She had broken up with me before saying that she didn't want a relationship and that she wanted to be able to go out with her friends and have fun with out worrying about making me mad or not. The weekened went by and on Sunday she called me to her house and ask me to take her back and I did. Now she is saying the same thing, and I don't know if she is going to come around again and take me back.. She also said that we fight too much.. but the only time we wuld fight wuld be when I wuld bring up her changing.. I just wanted her to include me in her plans a little bit more on the weekends, and act a little nicer towards me.. and she knew how she talked to me was wrong and she said it was wrong but wuldnt ever change... So I told her if she culdnt change I didn't want to be with her but if she culd I wuld love to be with her... she said we tried that before and it didn't work so we mine as well just end it for good... Im hurting so bad without her and I feel like I lost a best friend. I don't know what to do... I don't know if this time she will come around and come back to me or if it is over for good.

CaptainForest · Feb 6, 2006, 01:16 PM

Let me see if I got this straight.

You and this girl are dating for 5 months. She dumps you.

Then she takes you back.

Then she dumps you again.

Now, maybe she will take you back again, and then, maybe, probably, will dump you again. I wouldn't hold out hope for this one. I say cut your losses and move on.

Either that, or go get her back if you really love her. But don't sit around waiting if she will take you back. You either need to go get her back or move on.

fredg · Feb 6, 2006, 01:32 PM

Hi, LaBoy,
It does sound as if your "love" relationship with this girl is over. She wants to move on, be with others, but maybe still have you as just a "friend".
Same thing happened to me, many, many years ago. Life is hard to figure out sometimes, and love hurts more than anything.
It took me a year to get over one I really loved, and then I decided to start dating again, talking with other girls, and being interested in them.
It does hurt, but if you can start talking with others, listening to them, and try to move on, it will help a lot. I do wish you the best, and good luck.

jaredsp · Feb 7, 2006, 07:21 PM

It sounds as if she can't make up her mind with you

I would sugest talking to her and finding out what she really feels

Just tell her that she is confusing you and that you would like to find out

What her true feelings are.

Just some advice from one teen to another I guess.

-Jaredsp

talaniman · Feb 7, 2006, 09:12 PM

I'm going to solve your problem! Talk and socialise with every female YOU find attractive! YEP! Try it and get back with the results.:cool: ;)

JoeCanada76 · Feb 7, 2006, 09:35 PM

Why would you want to stay with somebody that is just playing games with you? You love her, and she goes out and wants to have fun and does not want to change. You said she ended it twice. Well that is a sure sign it is not right and that you need to find somebody that actually does want to spend time with you.