[jeffatl]

Lately things for me have been INSANE. It seems I thrive on drama girls... the ones that just have some baggage, a boyfreind, or some other hang up. The girl I am "in love with" has a boyfriend and I won't go there, the girl I am "seeing" is emotionally gone, and the girl that wants me I don't want. I am so tired with all of this I don't know what to do. I have been in the dating game for so lomg I have no idea what is going on.

I am thinking I need a break from women in general and just wait for something to "happen" but I am getting so much pressure from my family to get married and have babies it is crazy.

Same ol Jeff, new drama. Ideas?

[Fr_Chuck]

First no, you can't be "in love" with someone you have not even dated,
And yes, if you are chasing after girls that have current girl fiends, you are basically a player who is trying to steal someone else's girls.
Sounds like you should look at what you really want

[jolienoire]

Lately things for me have been INSANE. It seems I thrive on drama girls....the ones that just have some baggage, a boyfreind, or some other hang up. the girl I am "in love with" has a boyfriend and I won't go there, the girl I am "seeing" is emotionally gone, and the girl that wants me I don't want. I am so tired with all of this I don't know what to do. I have been in the dating game for so lomg I have no idea what is going on.

I am thinking I need a break from women in general and just wait for something to "happen" but I am getting so much pressure from my family to get married and have babies it is crazy.

Same ol Jeff, new drama. Ideas?

Sounds to me that you are looking for women who are unavailable because you are simply not ready for a commitment sure you want a companion, but just because you keep attracting yourself to women who seems to not be available in a world where there are many women who are single, and available tells me that you are really not sure what you want, and acting rebellious subconsciously with your parents wishes, therefore you will attract yourself to women who are unavailable sort of an excuse to not be in a relationship. Perhaps, you should reconsider where you are meeting this women (hope its not the bar) because that could be your problem right there, but the reality is if you are not ready then you don't have to rush into anything, but when you do invest time insomeone make sure they are available

[talaniman]

You can't let your parents run your life as I suspect they just want you to settle down and live a decent quiet life with GRANDKIDS, for them. You aren't ready, and you do really need to change your hunting grounds, or something, as you seem to go after the same type of female. Hey guy, date them all, but commit to no one. Why should you? How about structuring your life to what interests you, and broaden your horizons, and put new people into your life. The only way to change things, is to go down another path.

[jeffatl]

EXACTLY Talin! I think I am just letting the pressure get to me and I'm not really having fun anymore. I am seeing a new girl now (kind of) and my parents HATE HER! It's kind of funny though, because I feel like a damn teenager and like her more because of it almost. She is 21 and I am 26... I normally don't go for the "younger girls" because I am so busy with work I can't keep up. The funny/bad part is we are SO similar it is scary. We are both leos and stubborn as hell, but we have fun together! I have known her for a while, and resisted her advances because to be honest... she is not really my "type". She has a lot of tattoos and piercings, but I kind of dig that about her. She really brings me out of my shell, but we do have a lot of conflict as well. I know I am not ready to commit, or have kids... so I think I just need to stop trying to find "the one" because my parents want me to and have fun again. Thanks guys!

[talaniman]

Tatoos tend to turn parents off, but we aren't the ones dating her.:eek:

[Ndama]

Lately things for me have been INSANE. It seems I thrive on drama girls....the ones that just have some baggage, a boyfreind, or some other hang up. the girl I am "in love with" has a boyfriend and I won't go there, the girl I am "seeing" is emotionally gone, and the girl that wants me I don't want. I am so tired with all of this I don't know what to do. I have been in the dating game for so lomg I have no idea what is going on.

I am thinking I need a break from women in general and just wait for something to "happen" but I am getting so much pressure from my family to get married and have babies it is crazy.

Same ol Jeff, new drama. Ideas?

It's you! You have given your parents access to control your life. You have allowed them to get in you mind. Psychologically, you are thinking the way they want you to think. You are feeling as if you are doing something wrong or searching in the wrong place. It is fine for mom and dad to comment, everybody have the rights to judge another individual. Try not to let it get to you. Stop searching for love because you will not find it. Relax an let love find you.