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seavsp · Mar 17, 2008, 08:27 AM

So my story is, that my ex and I just have recently split. We have a 22 month old daughter together, and We have not done the whole court thing yet. (but I'm sure that it is on its way) Next month My daughter and I are going to St. Thomas with my family for 5 days. We leave on a Saturday and come back on Thursday night. He has known about this vacation since it had been booked (which was booked a year in advance). He was actually suppose to go, his ticket had been paid for and everything, but since our recent split will no longer be coming along. Since our recent fight he has told me that if I try to take my daughter on vacation he will be calling the police and telling them that I have kidnapped her. Is this possible? I never try to keep her from him and he is allowed to see her anytime he wants to. I am just really scared that he is going to ruin my familys vaction with his threats, please help!

Fr_Chuck · Mar 17, 2008, 08:40 AM

Well of course he can pick up the phone and call the police and they can laugh at him,

He is trying to scare you and it appears he has, please understand he will tell you 100 lies over the next few months or years to try and control your behavior.

First where you married ? EX does not really tell us, since people call ex live in boy friends ex's

But at this point you and he both if married have full rights to the child, who has physcial custody will be decided by a court order and that should be about the first think you do after he left.
Since of course if you were both married and he is on the birth certificate there is nothing to stop him from merely taking the child and not letting you see the child either until there is a court order in place.

So he is trying to control you with threats, it is serously time to get an attorney and do the court thing, including him paying child support

seavsp · Mar 17, 2008, 08:47 AM

Thank you for your answer. No we are not married, but yes he is on the birth certificate. He is now living at his mothers 2 bedroom apt. I know that he has scared me but I don't let him see that he is getting to me. Whenever he says something to me about it I just ignore it or say whatever. I am in a process of getting a lawyer today actually.

cdad · Mar 17, 2008, 01:47 PM

You need to be VERY careful with this. There are new laws that may prevent you from taking your child out of the country without his permission. You need to get his permission and get a noterized statement saying he authorizes this. If you don't do this then you could be up on federal charges.