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dupeasana · Mar 11, 2008, 09:44 AM

I have a boy friend, we were friends for 1 mth before we started dating. After he told me that he loves me but when ever I call him, he tells me he will call me bk but does not until the next day. When I call him, he does not pick up but later tells me he his busy or sleeping. I know that he loves to sleep but its like he does not have time for me and it makes me feel like am just waisting my time with him. He text me to tell me he loves me, he tells me all I need to know about him but still does not call and I have decided to stop calling him until he calls me bk. He then called bt I did not pick up and when I called him later, he told me that he is at the housing and he will call me bk later and I have been waiting for him to call bt still have not . I had someone that I was with before and he knows about it , I went to a club with that guy and I told him I was coming with this guy so when he saw me at the club, he did not want to dance with me and I wanted him to because I am in love with him not the other guy. Later that day, I broke up with my ex and I told him about it and how I feel about him but he did not say anything. So what do I do about this, how do I know that he really wants me or should I just forget about him loving him really hurts and not being able to spend time with him is so not good for the relationship, that is if there is one.

Ash123 · Mar 11, 2008, 10:21 AM

he seems to not love you as much as you love him.

If he did, he would make more of an effort.

But if he made more of an effort you might not like him as much...

And on and on it goes...

jeffatl · Mar 11, 2008, 10:24 AM

Doesn't sound like this guy "loves you" to me, he sound slike a jerk that wants attention from you for some reason. Why keep chasing this guy and not make him chace you for once? You are WAY too available for this guy calling him all the time and almost waiting by your phone for him to call back.

I say you flip it on him and not pick up when he calls you! Why not? This guy wants to play games with you, and you are letting him will CONSTANTLY. If he doesn't want to dance with you, find another guy to dance with!! His loss...

Honestly, I wouldn't waste my time on this guy because you are just going to end up getting hurt. Don't be so available to him, blow him off for a change.

azanerd · Mar 11, 2008, 06:21 PM

It seems like he wants to play games with you. I think he's getting a kick out of the power he feels when he knows your sitting at home waiting for him to call and he's just letting the time pass by for the hell of it.
You can play games right back at him. Tell him you'll call him and then "fall asleep" or "forget"... Do exactly what he does.
It may sound immature, but the guy just wants to play games.. so either play with him or get played by him...

or you could always stop waisting your time and find someone who's interested in love rather than games, someone who wants you by his side rather than under his feet, and someone who will treat you with the kind of respect that will make you happy.

That last choice sounds the best, don't you think...

But, just remember, there's so many choices you could make. You can be happy taking some time to yourself, without the stress of a man... you can do anything. And I really don't believe this guy is serious enough to have any long term value to you... or short term for that matter.

dupeasana · Mar 12, 2008, 03:28 AM

Thank guys for the answers. He called me bk yesterday then I pretended not to want to talk to him then he was all smiling on the phone. Later I had to let him understand that I really do care about him but he said to me that he does not sweet talk women, he just let the love flow without pressure. I then aks him that can I see him today (wednesday) he firstly thought about it then said, call me today and he will see if I can come, I said to myself, if he want s to see me, he does not need to think about it before saying yes, I then called him this morning but he did not pick up and I think he is still sleeping. I really do like this guy but it hurts not to see him and I think he know that I like him and I have come to realise that he is just playing with my emotions and I am too good for all of that. What do you think, do you think he is ready for a relationship or he has too many things to think about that he could not be bothered about me or should I just forget about him an move on or his he just trying to see how far he can push me.