[amanda11]

This is a follow up question about my mom cheating on my dad and who should I tell... I told my mom tonight with the condition that she tell my dad that night (so that she didn't take off with the money) and if she had left the house, I'd have told my dad immediately. She tried to tell me that it was something he already knew, but I tought she was lying so I made her tell him anyway. She told him, he freaked out, and now he's gone on a walk to clear his head. My mom came to me after he left and told me I shouldnt' tell him any of the specific details because it would only hurt him. She makes a good point but I'm understandably suspicious that she's maybe told him some lies about her affair to make it sound less bad. My question is: Is it really that important for him to know all the honest details like with who, when the last time was etc... or is it really just better to not give specifics because it's true that he would just be very hurt by knowing all those things? For example, I think she may have lied to him about when the last time they've been together was but is that something he truly needs to know the honest truth about, or would me saying that it was today as opposed to two weeks ago just be adding extra hurt and pain for him? It's really difficult to explain... like, he knows she's cheating on him is that good enough?

[kp2171]

Your mother hurt him, not you.

Don't bear the guilt of knowing something that he probably should know. Its reality.

The sooner they face the truth together, in its entirety, the better.

If you have more to say, and I think you do... its only the honest truth. Your mother may be upset with you... but its her shame and her fault.

[l12]

You opened up the truth... now step back... and let the adults handle THEIR situation and know that you are loved by both parents... Step back and breathe... and focus on you and your sibling... and Pray... God knows all... does all and helps all that ask.