Check out some similar questions!

0NEL0VEx3 · Mar 1, 2008, 07:25 AM

I have been with my current boyfriend on and off for about 5-6 years, it seems no matter how we break up or what happens, we always seem to somehow find ourselves together again. I'm 19 years old, and now I'm pregnant. We have been looking for places to move in together and he tells me how lost he would be without me, however recently he cheated on me and I found out by looking through his cell phone. He is not anymore, and swore he never would again, but every time I try to look through his phone it turns into a huge argument and he always gets it away from me. Also, when we're sleeping he locks it, although I usually figure out the password, and since he cheated I haven't really found anything else, but I'm just so worried about it. I think that this could end us, and I really don't want that to happen, but I don't know what to do. It's really the only thing we fight about, but he gets so mad about it and I just don't understand.

JBeaucaire · Mar 3, 2008, 06:45 AM

"Honey, I know it gets you mad, but I've decided to forgive you for the infedility and make a go of it with you, but I need some things from you back so I can work on the trust thing. It's going to take time.

"Until then, I need you to be willing to give me 100% access to your email and cell phone, etc. Just like I'm willing to give you access to mine, always. I absolutely need this from you. I care so much about you I want trust to be coming back full force, but I need to be able to verify.

"I know it feels like an invasion of privacy, but I hope you understand the affair you had was an invasion into mine. Even if this angers you, I know you understand, too.

"I forgive you for what happened, but I can't stay with you long-term and to get trust back will mean we'll need to have open access to our communications tools for quite some time.

"Think about it and let me know, so I'll know if we're going to be able to stay together. Even if you decide you can't do this for me, I forgive you anyway. But I won't be able to stay with you, even though I won't be mad anymore."