[tiamokiss]

How to get him/her back..


Ha, if you are reading this it means you are hoping you can win a loved one back. You are desperately seeking solutions in which you already know the answers to. You want to show them how big of a mistake they made. How foolish they were. How you were the best thing that ever happened to them.

You want them back, you can’t eat, sleep, think… concentrate your lonely frustrated desperate.. Checking your phone every 5 minutes, logging on to myspace/face book reading old text messages over and over again. Saying how could he/she?

Looking at pictures, and remembering the great sex and emotional connections that you shared. The arguments, the I love you the constant assurance of “you are the one”.

There were signs but you ignored them, perhaps they stopped saying I love you, they stopped calling, stop doing all the things they used to do in the beginning. You brushed it off making excuses blaming yourself for loving them to much. You basically become blind to the reality that this relationship is nearing an end. How can you expect a relationship to stay exactly the same as it was in the beginning when you grow day by day? Some people grow apart as they grow older some grow together in any situation growing means changing. As long as we grow we will always be out of our comfort zone. Nothing will ever be just right there will always be challenges, obstacles, and not so perfect conditions. Life is change, growth is optional make a choice and choose wisely. Change is inevitable and growth is intentional. All movement is not forward but sometimes you have to take a step back to see a clearer picture, this step is coming to acceptance that this relationship was not meant to be.

You have to be true to yourself and realize that if you can’t put your heart in it take yourself out of it. Sometimes letting go allows you to see if it was worth holding on to. Confidence doesn’t come from having all the answers it comes from being open to all the questions..


The truth is everyone should compel themselves to loneliness occasionally, because most of your greatest achievements and thoughts come from loneliness. When you have a clear mind, and can evaluate your true self without the disruption of life minor fallbacks. Stop regretting the past and fearing the future..

Live and instead of trying to figure out how to get him/her back focus on getting yourself back. Be thankful for finding love, embrace who you are. If we can put as much as we do into our relationships as much as we put into ourselves than we will realize that no one can ever love us as much as we love ourselves.. Therefore we are responsible for our own happiness.

So to answer the question how do I get them back? Look in the mirror the change and the beginning and end starts with yourself. It starts with acceptance, confidence, change, growth…It starts with realizing there is no such thing as perfect circumstances only accepting to see imperfections as a perfect part of living. Living is learning, learning is growing, growing means change, change is the beginning and the beginning reflects the ending…

Say to yourself, I love me, I am the mason of my dreams, I am going to love myself enough to know that ignoring someone else issues is me settling. I will not settle. I will improve myself first. I will understand how difficult it is to change myself, I will realize how difficult it is to change others. I realize that there is no such thing as perfect conditions. I will take each day at a time, and not fear my future. I will not regret my past, for it has made me who I am today . I will love myself first! And most importantly I will continue to be the best me I can be. Remember that we all human it takes a step back to see the clearer picture. I will not continue to make the same mistakes. I will learn from my mistake. I will accept loneliness as a blueprint to my success ahead and build my future based on my past. I will not look back but look ahead to brighter days. Now that I am on my path I will thank all those who have made me who I am today.

Yes.. But I still can't find how to get them back? :(

[taylove11]

How to get him/her back..


Ha, if you are reading this it means you are hoping you can win a loved one back. You are desperately seeking solutions in which you already know the answers to. You want to show them how big of a mistake they made. How foolish they were. How you were the best thing that ever happened to them.

You want them back, you can’t eat, sleep, think… concentrate your lonely frustrated desperate.. Checking your phone every 5 minutes, logging on to myspace/face book reading old text messages over and over again. Saying how could he/she?

Looking at pictures, and remembering the great sex and emotional connections that you shared. The arguments, the I love you the constant assurance of “you are the one”.

There were signs but you ignored them, perhaps they stopped saying I love you, they stopped calling, stop doing all the things they used to do in the beginning. You brushed it off making excuses blaming yourself for loving them to much. You basically become blind to the reality that this relationship is nearing an end. How can you expect a relationship to stay exactly the same as it was in the beginning when you grow day by day? Some people grow apart as they grow older some grow together in any situation growing means changing. As long as we grow we will always be out of our comfort zone. Nothing will ever be just right there will always be challenges, obstacles, and not so perfect conditions. Life is change, growth is optional make a choice and choose wisely. Change is inevitable and growth is intentional. All movement is not forward but sometimes you have to take a step back to see a clearer picture, this step is coming to acceptance that this relationship was not meant to be.

You have to be true to yourself and realize that if you can’t put your heart in it take yourself out of it. Sometimes letting go allows you to see if it was worth holding on to. Confidence doesn’t come from having all the answers it comes from being open to all the questions..


The truth is everyone should compel themselves to loneliness occasionally, because most of your greatest achievements and thoughts come from loneliness. When you have a clear mind, and can evaluate your true self without the disruption of life minor fallbacks. Stop regretting the past and fearing the future..

Live and instead of trying to figure out how to get him/her back focus on getting yourself back. Be thankful for finding love, embrace who you are. If we can put as much as we do into our relationships as much as we put into ourselves than we will realize that no one can ever love us as much as we love ourselves.. Therefore we are responsible for our own happiness.

So to answer the question how do I get them back? Look in the mirror the change and the beginning and end starts with yourself. It starts with acceptance, confidence, change, growth…It starts with realizing there is no such thing as perfect circumstances only accepting to see imperfections as a perfect part of living. Living is learning, learning is growing, growing means change, change is the beginning and the beginning reflects the ending…

Say to yourself, I love me, I am the mason of my dreams, I am going to love myself enough to know that ignoring someone else issues is me settling. I will not settle. I will improve myself first. I will understand how difficult it is to change myself, I will realize how difficult it is to change others. I realize that there is no such thing as perfect conditions. I will take each day at a time, and not fear my future. I will not regret my past, for it has made me who I am today . I will love myself first! And most importantly I will continue to be the best me I can be. Remember that we all human it takes a step back to see the clearer picture. I will not continue to make the same mistakes. I will learn from my mistake. I will accept loneliness as a blueprint to my success ahead and build my future based on my past. I will not look back but look ahead to brighter days. Now that I am on my path I will thank all those who have made me who I am today.

Love it thanks a lot .I really like what u said they are truly words to live by

[Encanto]

Hello guys,

Need your opininion before sending this.

Should I call 1st?
Should I send an email?
If she doenst answer, should I follow up again or move on?
Am I making a fool of myself?
Any suggestions?


Draft

Dear Maria,

I know I was the one that broke things off with you but I never wanted to break things off. I really cared about you and I still do. I think about you all the time and have missed you to say the least.

I made a mistake becoming so angry with you that day in front of door step. For that, I am truly sorry and I sincerely regret that. I was really looking forward to seeing you that day; we hadn’t seen much of other at that point. I was so disappointed. I realize now I should have taken a different approach, I made a mistake, what can I say. I’m sorry if I hurt you, I never meant to. I didn’t break things off because I didn’t care about you, only because wanted to see more of you. Looking back now, I don’t thing our problems were such that we couldn’t working something out. I would like to try it again if you are willing. I don’t know if you still care or are interested at this point, but I really would like to see you again. Will you let me take you out for dinner one day? Just talk. As you see, I have taken a brave 1st step.

[jolienoire]

hello guys,

need your opininion before sending this.

should i call 1st?
should i send an email?
if she doenst answer, should i follow up again or move on?
am i making a fool of myself?
any suggestions?


Draft

Dear Maria,

I know I was the one that broke things off with you but I never wanted to break things off. I really cared about you and I still do. I think about you all the time and have missed you to say the least.

I made a mistake becoming so angry with you that day in front of door step. For that, I am truly sorry and I sincerely regret that. I was really looking forward to seeing you that day; we hadn’t seen much of other at that point. I was so disappointed. I realize now I should of taken a different approach, I made a mistake, what can I say. I’m sorry if I hurt you, I never meant to. I didn’t break things off because I didn’t care about you, only because wanted to see more of you. Looking back now, I don’t thing our problems were such that we couldn’t working something out. I would like to try it again if you are willing. I don’t know if you still care or are interested at this point, but I really would like to see you again. Will you let me take you out for dinner one day? Just talk. As you see, I have taken a brave 1st step.

Question how long ago did you break up with her? How much time elapsed since the fight? The good thing about this letter is that you are expressing yourself, I think you are doing it more for closure if that is the case and you feel like you need to say it to her then say it, I would suggest you call her first, she may or may not want to talk to you, then if she answers let her know you would like to talk to her IN person maybe over dinner. If she declines then you have to respect her wishes, if she agrees then you tell her exactly what you wrote so that maybe she can see the sincerity. Make sure you bring her some nice flowers too! You may feel a little hurt if she rejects you, but then from there you know where you stand and can effectively move forward, don't be too pushy, and be respectful.Remember you broke up with her,and she probably feels a little upset with you that you couldn't work it out, so when you see or talk to her have patience as she may even be distant to protect herself from hurt again.

[waystogetexback]

Do you want to know how to win a man or woman back? If you still love your ex boyfriend, but you don't know how to win back his love back, then read the six easy ways below to win a man back. These are tried and proven tested ways to get ex back.

- Instead of running after him by calling him, texting him and emailing him, give him some time to think things over. Time heals hurts and he will finally see how much you mean to him when he has time to think about it.

- Don’t get into a confrontation or a blaming game. This will defeat the purpose of getting back with your ex. Find something interesting to talk about if you find the conversation is going in the wrong direction.

- Let him know how much you have missed his company. Notice, I did not say “miss him,” but “his company.” This will let him see that you enjoyed being with “him,” and not just for the sake of a relationship.
- Don’t try to take revenge. Even if revenge works, your relationship will not last if it is on those grounds. You have to have a relationship of trust so forget about making him jealous. Flirt with him instead. Men have egos and like to know that they have an impact on you. Make him feel that way, but of course, you are going to mean it too.

- Never seek to start another relationship unless you have resolved this relationship. You have to close one chapter of your life first before you open another. This is why you are going to try to mend your current breakup to see if things will work out.

- Patience is a virtue with everything and this is no different. You have to give it time. Feelings are hurt and time is what will heal it. In the meantime, try to improve yourself and be a better person. Find out from your ex what he did not like about the relationship and ask for his honesty. When he tells you, don’t be offended. Instead use the information as a starting point to improving and changing those behaviors.

[talaniman]

These are tried and proven tested ways to get ex back.

Did they work for you??

[jolienoire]

Did they work for you?????

Good question,

[wantu]

I don't agree with you all because you all are consoling each other.The things that we cannot get we should understand that its god will and nothing else.And about life its moves on with past experiences,time is the main factor .Love ,Life,feelings practical life all re based on time.


Hope you all enjoy and think in a different way after reading this.

[chuff]

I don't agree with you all because you all are consoling each other.The things that we cannot get we should understand that its god will and nothing else.And about life its moves on with past experiences,time is the main factor .Love ,Life,feelings practical life all re based on time.


Hope you all enjoy and think in a different way after reading this.

I don't agree with you. I think if you read what Jolie has wrote here, and most of the following posts, the subject matter is not really directed at getting the person back that left, it's about getting the person back that matters most, that being yourself. Relationships tend to change people, and when they are over the confusion and void create a lot unsettling emotions. This post if you read is clearly about getting yourself back, the other person is secondary... if even relevant at all.

[confused1145]

I really liked that. It is awesome and so true.

[fjsmith81]

I don't agree with you. I think if you read what Jolie has wrote here, and most of the following posts, the subject matter is not really directed at getting the person back that left, it's about getting the person back that matters most, that being yourself. Relationships tend to change people, and when they are over the confusion and void create a lot unsettling emotions. This post if you read is clearly about getting yourself back, the other person is secondary....if even relevant at all.

I think that is the most important thing. I read the title of this post and I got curious. I even laughed a little when I read the title. I could never understand the reasoning for a person wanting to get back with an ex. They are your ex for a reason, but if that is what you want then here goes. If you want to get back with an ex the only thing you need to do is move on. Don't sit around waiting for the phone to ring, stop dreaming that this person will realize that they made the wrong decision, start loving yourself (you should have never stopped in the first place) Realize that no one but you determines what is going to happen and decide if you are going to be happy, because when you try to get your ex back you are saying that they get to decide your happiness. I have had my fair share of relationships where I have broken up with someone and someone has broken up with me and every time a relationship ends I think to myself oh well that happens and that is what life is all about. It makes you a stronger person and you should learn a few things. And I evaluate the past relationship and take it only as a lesson. And I am going to tell you more times than none they always come sniffing back, but by that time it is too late. I don't see the person the same way anymore because I have moved on and that person is no longer good enough for me. And if I did decide to get back together with them then who's to say that it wouldn't happen again(and yes nine times out of ten the relationship ends again). So I don't go that route. When it's over it's over. And that is how anyone trying to get an ex back should feel. They are your ex for a reason and it is not your job to get them back if they truly wanted to be with you they would have not ended it in the first place.

[8288]

Good Post. Great treatment for one who fall and feel because of love. Am one of them..
Heartily thanks

[hardfeellove]

:(

How to get him/her back..


Ha, if you are reading this it means you are hoping you can win a loved one back. You are desperately seeking solutions in which you already know the answers to. You want to show them how big of a mistake they made. How foolish they were. How you were the best thing that ever happened to them.

You want them back, you can’t eat, sleep, think… concentrate your lonely frustrated desperate.. Checking your phone every 5 minutes, logging on to myspace/face book reading old text messages over and over again. Saying how could he/she?

Looking at pictures, and remembering the great sex and emotional connections that you shared. The arguments, the I love you the constant assurance of “you are the one”.

There were signs but you ignored them, perhaps they stopped saying I love you, they stopped calling, stop doing all the things they used to do in the beginning. You brushed it off making excuses blaming yourself for loving them to much. You basically become blind to the reality that this relationship is nearing an end. How can you expect a relationship to stay exactly the same as it was in the beginning when you grow day by day? Some people grow apart as they grow older some grow together in any situation growing means changing. As long as we grow we will always be out of our comfort zone. Nothing will ever be just right there will always be challenges, obstacles, and not so perfect conditions. Life is change, growth is optional make a choice and choose wisely. Change is inevitable and growth is intentional. All movement is not forward but sometimes you have to take a step back to see a clearer picture, this step is coming to acceptance that this relationship was not meant to be.

You have to be true to yourself and realize that if you can’t put your heart in it take yourself out of it. Sometimes letting go allows you to see if it was worth holding on to. Confidence doesn’t come from having all the answers it comes from being open to all the questions..


The truth is everyone should compel themselves to loneliness occasionally, because most of your greatest achievements and thoughts come from loneliness. When you have a clear mind, and can evaluate your true self without the disruption of life minor fallbacks. Stop regretting the past and fearing the future..

Live and instead of trying to figure out how to get him/her back focus on getting yourself back. Be thankful for finding love, embrace who you are. If we can put as much as we do into our relationships as much as we put into ourselves than we will realize that no one can ever love us as much as we love ourselves.. Therefore we are responsible for our own happiness.

So to answer the question how do I get them back? Look in the mirror the change and the beginning and end starts with yourself. It starts with acceptance, confidence, change, growth…It starts with realizing there is no such thing as perfect circumstances only accepting to see imperfections as a perfect part of living. Living is learning, learning is growing, growing means change, change is the beginning and the beginning reflects the ending…

Say to yourself, I love me, I am the mason of my dreams, I am going to love myself enough to know that ignoring someone else issues is me settling. I will not settle. I will improve myself first. I will understand how difficult it is to change myself, I will realize how difficult it is to change others. I realize that there is no such thing as perfect conditions. I will take each day at a time, and not fear my future. I will not regret my past, for it has made me who I am today . I will love myself first! And most importantly I will continue to be the best me I can be. Remember that we all human it takes a step back to see the clearer picture. I will not continue to make the same mistakes. I will learn from my mistake. I will accept loneliness as a blueprint to my success ahead and build my future based on my past. I will not look back but look ahead to brighter days. Now that I am on my path I will thank all those who have made me who I am today.

[tootired75]

I also know that low-self esteem and lack of confidence comes from us looking to others to validate us. And all the hope and time we put into them can be taken away with a blink of an eye. Then we loose all hope. I think my divorce was the best thing that ever happened to me because it was never really the best thing for me in the first place, but it took me time to recover and get use to the fact that I would be a divorced single mother of two beautiful children. Years ago I wouldn't picture me at this point in my life where I am as strong as I am. But I am here, and Now I am helping others who are where I was 4 years ago.

I just joined this site tonight while looking for information regarding how to handle the two ira accounts that I have received from a recent divorce. I thought this was strictly a financial planning/investment site. Lol

Quick synopsis: married 12 years, 2 young kids, separated last year, not a single tear shed over the lost marriage. I don't think we ever truly loved each other and remain friends.

After the divorce I met someone. He wanted a commitment, I didn't at the time. He pushed and I fell for him. HARD! I had never been treated better or felt so incredibly loved and accepted. The chemistry was amazing as well. He ended up moving to my city with his daughter to be closer. He and I had our future planned.

One day out of the blue (it seems to me) he broke up with me. I have never experienced this thing everyone calls brokenhearted, even in regards to the divorce. Until now. I am devastated. I know logically what I need to do but emotionally I just can't move on.

I wonder if a big part of my feeling so utterly broken and lonely is because I have never been alone and now I am. I completely lack self esteem and have made a few choices that were pretty immature for my age.

I don't know why I posted this, lack of sleep can make one delirious I guess. Sorry for rambling.

[jaywave]

I've just posted a question

Is she playing a game?

And jolie?. it scares me how much of what you said is what I did. But with me, our relationship seemed pretty solid after the first break up. I could kind of understand if she cheated on me if our relationship was stale and declining, but right up until the day she left on holiday I thought we were so in love!! She certainly gave that impression. Guess that first 12 hours pretty much summed up what the relationship was... a total waste of time, money and effort.

[chuff]

After the divorce I met someone. He wanted a commitment, I didn't at the time. He pushed and I fell for him. HARD!

I'm sorry but something about that seems strange. Men don't generally push for relationships to begin with and then to push for one with someone who just got divorced almost makes me believe something else was going on there. It sure comes off like he had something else in mind, what I don't know but it doesn't sound like it was in your best interest, whatever it was.

I had never been treated better or felt so incredibly loved and accepted. The chemistry was amazing as well. He ended up moving to my city with his daughter to be closer. He and I had our future planned.

He moved for you and had your future planned, why?

One day out of the blue (it seems to me) he broke up with me. I have never experienced this thing everyone calls brokenhearted, even in regards to the divorce. Until now. I am devastated. I know logically what I need to do but emotionally I just can't move on.

I'm going to throw this out there, but I think your devastation was actually from the divorce and this "relationship" afterwards was a distraction from the true loss you were facing. The brain kept you busy with the new guy who may have done some new, different, and exciting things from what you were accustomed to but he was a temporary fix for the actual loss you were feeling. Once he was gone, the loss came back but now you've attributed it to him and not the divorce.

I wonder if a big part of my feeling so utterly broken and lonely is because I have never been alone and now I am.

Very possible. You don't seem to have a self identity, which is very important if your going to date. It stops guys from picking up girls who have been recently divorced and planning there own future with them. I say that because if you look at the bigger picture, you seemed like you were vulerable and he took advantage of it. It's now to time to reclaim yourself without anyone in your life so you know who you are and what you will put up with for the future guys you date.

I completely lack self esteem

Build it back up. This site offer great ideas and links, bluerose has a lot of great links for you on this very topic. I also recommend you listen to Tony Robbins, people can think what they want but he offers you some great insites on how to think positive and even reprogram your brain for positive results. Keeping yourself esteem up is like working out, you can't do it for a week and expect lifetime results, you must practice it for a lifetime and love the results.

and have made a few choices that were pretty immature for my age.

Well you must be the only one who's ever done that. So what, so has everybody, it can't be any worse then any hollywood celebrity who's on the front page of a magazine at the check out line. Put it into perspective, and laugh it off.

[chuff]

a total waste of time, money and effort.

WRONG!! This attitude writes off the relationship as you have wrote it... "a total waste of time, money, and effort." Your attitude needs to be, "This relationship ended as new ones will come, but what positive things did I learn and can I take for the future." If you keep telling yourself this was a waste of time, you do not give yourself the benefit of getting something for the pain you now feel. Pain is going to happen in life, that's the reality, what you get from that pain, that is YOUR reality. Make the pain worth it and get something from it for your own good.

[tootired75]

I'm sorry but something about that seems strange. Men don't generally push for relationships to begin with and then to push for one with someone who just got divorced almost makes me believe something else was going on there. It sure comes off like he had something else in mind, what I don't know but it doesn't sound like it was in your best interest, whatever it was.



He moved for you and had your future planned, why?



I'm going to throw this out there, but I think your devastation was actually from the divorce and this "relationship" afterwards was a distraction from the true loss you were facing. The brain kept you busy with the new guy who may have done some new, different, and exciting things from what you were accustomed to but he was a temporary fix for the actual loss you were feeling. Once he was gone, the loss came back but now you've attributed it to him and not the divorce.



Very possible. You don't seem to have a self identity, which is very important if your going to date. It stops guys from picking up girls who have been recently divorced and planning there own future with them. I say that because if you look at the bigger picture, you seemed like you were vulerable and he took advantage of it. It's now to time to reclaim yourself without anyone in your life so you know who you are and what you will put up with for the future guys you date.



Build it back up. This site offer great ideas and links, bluerose has a lot of great links for you on this very topic. I also recommend you listen to Tony Robbins, people can think what they want but he offers you some great insites on how to think positive and even reprogram your brain for positive results. Keeping your self esteem up is like working out, you can't do it for a week and expect lifetime results, you must practice it for a lifetime and love the results.



Well you must be the only one who's ever done that. So what, so has everybody, it can't be any worse then any hollywood celebrity who's on the front page of a magazine at the check out line. Put it into perspective, and laugh it off.

Thanks Chuff! I especially took note of your comments about the new guy being a distraction. Maybe it really if the divorce that I am "grieving" Displaced emotions so to speak. Good point. Your adivce was great Thanks

-M-

[delfinno]

My girlfriend break up with me on MSN about 2 weeks age since then I have send few sms to her wanting her back. I truly love her. After two weeks now she is coming to pick up her things from our place and moving to another town.. I really want her.. I have reflex on all the things that went wrong and I am even willing to move to the town that she is moving. But what can I say to her when she comes to park up her things.. I really want her back !

[natasblue]

I'm not trying to get an ex back but have very good friends who are having major marriage issues. Wow, you really have some heart and soul not to mention an amazing talent to express it into writing. I'm going to forward the advice to my married friends and hope that it helps them out with some of there issues. This is what I call beautifull. Thank you so much for sharing because of it I have gained some empowerment as an individual and could and will help someone else. Thanks