[AINOKEA]

A few months ago, I met a woman who I started seeing. She was married for 14 years, and in a long term relationship after that. When I met her, I was going through a divorce and she was enjoying being "free" and not having to answer to anyone for once. At first, we would just go to lunch or have breakfast but as time went on, we got closer and closer and I started to stay over her house every so often. About a month ago, things began getting really intense and we could call each other everyday and there were times where I would see her 5 or more times a week. For whatever reason, I began having feelings of insecurity when she didn't see as affectionate or when her emails to me began slowing down. I would nitpick on every little thing and start a "discussion" with her about once a week. Now she feels that things went beyond what we had origionally agreed to and feels that she "needs her space". She said that because of our last "discussion" she realized that things were getting out of hand. In light of that, she let me come over this past Tuesday and Wednesday nights and seemed puzzled when I told her that I was going home rather than spending the night. How should I handle this? I want things to continue between us but I don't know what to do to give her "her space".

[ChihuahuaMomma]

It sounds like she is lonely and wants someone, but not a relationship. Just a warm body. I'm just saying what it appears to me. I've gotten reddies for this before, so please spare this time.

OP, I'd say get away from her. Find someone that deserves you.

[ISneezeFunny]

Got to spread pre-chihuahua

If you can handle a superficial relationship with her, then hey, this is for you. However, it doesn't seem like you can. Bail out before this gets sour.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

gotta spread pre-chihuahua

I don't get it...

[ISneezeFunny]

Haha, I meant... I wanted to give you a greenie, but I had to spread it before giving it to you.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Sorry, my brain has a gas today... all day... BRAIN FART!

[N0help4u]

It sounds like you and her are opposites. You would be able to get along in a relationship with her if you knew how to deal with her independent nature but you are more the analytical type. She sounds like she wants friends only with 'benefits' but she is not seeing how that can affect your perspective to read more into it.
You are better finding someone more into the home style life.
You were right for going home and letting her be puzzled. If you had stayed you would have felt lead on.

[talaniman]

You in way to deep, she isn't.

[eruditemargaret9]

Roger--going home was a good idea. You won't have to do it again provided you don't go to her House of Confusion.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

Roger--going home was a good idea. You won't have to do it again provided you don't go to her House of Confusion.

Nice!