[foxigirl83]

I know that it is pointless to have an interest in him, but I am very attracted to my counselor.He is not too much older than me and we get along really well & I am extremely attracted to him. I'm a recovering drug addict, and am doing well. I do understand the concept of replacing one addiction with another but he is just the type of person I wish I could have in my life. Stable, understanding, attractive,funny,he too is an ex addict so he understands. I know that it will go nowhere he is very professional, but now I feel worse because I have that sad disappointed/rejected feeling. Like there goes another good prospect that I can't have. I guess I've realized I can live better on my program but now as I wake up to real life it makes me realize how much I want to date a nice guy.I don't feel connected to a lot of men because I have issues with trust but I have gotten to know him through counseling so you can imagine how I have gotten comfortable with him. It's sad it makes me realize what I've been missing out on & thoughts like this literally bring me to tears.How do I deal with these overwhelming feelings?I feel like I'll never meet the right person, or be with someone I really could care for. I'm in my mid twenties already and have just started over in the last year.People say not to even think of dating but once you get interested in someone it's kind of easier said than done...

[lovelesspa]

I think personally that this is a situation that will go nowhere, but if I were you I would mention to him the feesling your having, hopefully he'll have the ethics to steer you to someone else. This is kind of like the crush you could have had on a high school teacher, and like you already know it's just that he knows how you feel , is understanding, this is his job, straighten out your life first, and then find love. You have plenty of time to find love, you were looking for help, he is giving it to you, don't complicate things!