[jeves]

Hi there,

I had a girlfriend of 4 years- things weren't really working. We had some problems in our relationship- but we never really talked about them, as she had a close relative who was terminally ill.

It has been 2 months since we have broken up- we both miss each other and have said so. Tonight we are meeting up for the first time- I feel so scared and nervous about how I will feel. It is her dads 60th be on Sat- she wants me to go, so we are meeting before then so it isn't awkward on the day.

I have no interest in other women at all- and I just seem to think about her.

Help- in 2 hours I will be meeting- I don't know how to act, what to say- I still have feelings for her

Thanks

jeves xx

[talaniman]

Just be cool, and listen to what she has to say. Honestly hard times draws people closer, so no idea where this is leading, but is there a chance this is all show for her fathers benefit?? Don't let your feelings blind you to what's really going on.

[duck22]

Hey jeves relax and just act yourself. Keep it casual and listen to what she has to say, you do not want to talk about anything that may put pressure on you or her when you two meet. She should have the impression that you are doing well on your own (even if you are not). If you are still interested in her, take things slow and do not get your hopes up unless you are prepared to get shut down. Taliman put it pretty well when he said "dont let your feelings blind you to what's really going on. If things are in fact going well, maybe you can hint that you are still interested in her but make sure you do not come off too strong. You definitely do not want to come off as desperate or needy. She should think that you are still interested in her but do not need her. This is just my opinion on the matter, whatever you end up doing I hope it works out for you. Good luck and take it slow.

On a side note do you truly want to be with her or do you miss being with somebody. Think about that as well.

[anamia]

My ex from college (we dated 5 years ago) spent the weekend with me. We hadn't seen each other in over a year, but we had been talking on the phone. It was a little awkward, but when you still love someone - it is a lot easier than you think to make it comfortable. It really felt like we had turned back the clock to the last day we saw each other (well.. the last good day at least). I think absence makes the heart grow fonder. Good luck!