[HistorianChick]

I didn't mean I let people walk all over me either, because my personality is part angel part b#*ch if I get pushed. I just tend to walk into situations with my eyes half closed sometimes, and I end up doing this contortionist move later when I'm trying to kick myself in the A$$. ;)

Girl, I think we were separated at birth. You described me to a "T"!! :D

Ok, physically? Rah... my chest. I'd love to go down a cup or two.

Then I would be perfect. Idyllic. Angelic all the time...

[Gernald]

Er... I wish I were more outgoing. I stink when it comes to talking in groups. This computer is some of the best social stimulation I've had in ages.
Wow I just realised how sadly stupid that sounds.

[startover22]

Er... I wish I were more outgoing. I stink when it comes to talking in groups. This computer is some of the best social stimulation I've had in ages.
Wow I just realised how sadly stupid that sounds.

Not sad at all, as long as we remember our face to face values. :)

[starbuck8]

Girl, I think we were separated at birth. You described me to a "T"!!!! :D

Ok, physically?? Rah.... my chest. I'd love to go down a cup or two.

Then I would be perfect. Idyllic. Angelic all the time....

You can send your leftovers my way! I think when we were separated you were a little greedy! Hahaha! :D

[starbuck8]

Er... I wish I were more outgoing. I stink when it comes to talking in groups. This computer is some of the best social stimulation I've had in ages.
Wow I just realised how sadly stupid that sounds.

Talking on the computer has it's perks! For instance, I would have just made a total fool of myself in front of a crowd because I had a glass of tomato juice and turned around and knocked it over on my dog who is completely white!. and it's not even skunk season!
See what a wonderful thing the computer can be? :eek:

[Allheart]

****Update for all of you beautiful people******

We are not going to ping our bodies... :) As we are all Naturally beautiful... Okie dokie :)

All of you wrote some beautiful and heartfelt post. It does so good to share and I truly thank you.

[HistorianChick]

You can send your leftovers my way!! I think when we were separated you were a little greedy! hahaha! :D

LOL! Nice one. :)

[Allheart]

I'd like to knock off my rosy glasses and my perpetual-Barbie-girl-optimism once in a while....

I tend to be a pushover at times, I let the softer side of my personality take over and I smudge the issue....

I'd love to be able to discern what's true, honest, and real, rather than assume that everything is always good, or that "they" always mean well and have "my best interest" at heart...

Does that make sense??

Historian.. make sense... it more then makes sense. My husband gets so :mad: at me, for just those reasons.

[startover22]

****Update for all of you beautiful people******

We are not going to ping our bodies...:) As we are all Naturally beautiful...Okie dokie :)

All of you wrote some beautiful and heartfelt post. It does so good to share and I truly thank you.

Allheart, I agree!
And I love this thread, you always seem to bring out the best in everyone! Even though this thread has shed some light on things we would like to change, it is still great and has found it's way into my heart already!
(by the way, Sunday I am going to work on a cross stitch, and your sig will be the main part, I know it has taken me a year to start it and I said I was going to paint it, but I changed my mind!) Hugs...

[Allheart]

Allheart, I agree!
And I love this thread, you always seem to bring out the best in everyone! Even though this thread has shed some light on things we would like to change, it is still great and has found it's way into my heart already!
(by the way, Sunday I am gonna work on a cross stitch, and your sig will be the main part, I know it has taken me a year to start it and I said I was gonna paint it, but I changed my mind!) Hugs.....

Start,

There may be days I go quiet and there may be days I'm off making a mess of things on other threads, but there NEVER is a day that I am not so grateful to have "met" you and know you and even more, never a day that Start is not planted firmly in a part of my heart. I hope you know how truly much I mean that. You are just precious and just always brighten my spirts.

I saw that saying... either in Mother Theresa's book or on the internet and just fell in love with it.

Thanks again for the Sunshine. There may be days Start that have some bumps in them, but never let it change that beautiful person inside you.

**hugs back***

[bEaUtIfUlbRuNeTtE]

If I could change one thing about myself it would have to be:

To learn how to stand up for myself and what is right. I am constantly pushed around by

The people that I 'think' love me and in the end I feel like I have accomplished nothing,

Just letting the opposing person win the battle. And every time I think to myself 'why can't

I be stronger than that?'. I am too nice and I need not to be anymore.

[startover22]

Awww, gosh Allheart, right back atcha! Teary eyes and all! You are one of the "ones" that helped me see that light way back when and I have been working on that ever since!
And I know you haven't forgotten, our husbands are very much a like. LOL

[starbuck8]

If I could change one thing about myself it would have to be:

To learn how to stand up for myself and what is right. I am constantly pushed around by

the people that I 'think' love me and in the end I feel like I have accomplished nothing,

just letting the opposing person win the battle. And everytime I think to myself 'why can't

I be stronger than that?'. I am too nice and I need not to be anymore.

Don't stop being who you are, and don't stop being nice. That would be a shame! I know it's hard to stand up for yourself sometimes, and know all too well how it feels to be hurt by someone you love and you think loves you back the same way. You are probably stronger than you give yourself credit for! Don't switch teams and join forces with the ones that have hurt you. That will only make you feel worse and you'll be jaded and bitter. Don't let them win! :)

[Allheart]

I would like to have more compassion and patience with others.

I hold myself to high standards of personal responsibility, and of being self-sufficient, and I hold everyone ELSE to those standards too. Sometimes, though, people can't stand on their own feet, and I need to remember that I don't know what someone else's story is, and being kind to them is more loving than being angry with them for it.

To my sweet wonderfully intelligent and beautiful Synn –

I don’t think you get angry….I think it’s more frustration. You want better for people who just don’t “get it” and get frustrated trying to explain it in a way that they will understand.

You just want better for people and get frustrated when it’s only they who hold themselves back.

You have a heart of gold Synn. Remember that.

For the longest time, I could only stand on my knees :( but the years have helped me to find one foot and I'm working on the other :p

You're a good strong women Synn - who loves and cares equally strong -

[Allheart]

Don't stop being who you are, and don't stop being nice. That would be a shame! I know it's hard to stand up for yourself sometimes, and know all too well how it feels to be hurt by someone you love and you think loves you back the same way. You are probably stronger than you give yourself credit for! Don't switch teams and join forces with the ones that have hurt you. That will only make you feel worse and you'll be jaded and bitter. Don't let them win! :)

OH Star this is OUTSTANDING advice. The world needs more of the "nice" people... no reason to change to the other team just like Star said.

I honestly believe that all people at one time were nice, and kind. And then life sent some curve balls. Some caught the ball and tried to deal and learn from it, others the curve ball hurt them so much, they didn't know what to do with the hurt, so they unknowingly throw the ball back to try and hurt in hopes their pain is not seen.

Does that make sense?

[curlybenswife]

You know what being nice is a very rare qaulity these days if you ask me most are far to quick to say no, if you have the qulity then don't ever wish it away it makes you truly special and dear to so many people even if they don't admit it.

[Allheart]

You know what being nice is a very rare qaulity these days if you ask me most are far to quick to say no, if you have the qulity then dont ever wish it away it makes you truely special and dear to so many people even if they dont admit it.

More wise words from the new Mommy :)

[HistorianChick]

That's a good point, CBW. Far too often we bypass the people that are genuinely kind and nice and focus attention on the ones that cut us off in traffic or don't hold a door. Good point.

We all should appreciate each other a little more...

For what its worth, I appreciate all of you!! I love this little e-community. And, I've loved all of the e-coffee chats I've been blessed to be a part of! :)

(Allheart, by the way - thanks for the greenie on that definition of love post. I just write what is in my soul. :))

[curlybenswife]

Hardly wise just the trueth this world really is full of misserable gits and it's a shame really because if they just stopped and opened there eyes just that little bit more then things would certainly seem less dark to them.
Life is what we make it we all have those down days and those days are always for some reason what we remember the most they always were to me anyway but not any more my life became complete 3 weeks ago and I couldn't ask for any more I know I'm lucky and ill never forget that even though I complain a lot I don't really mean in.

[starbuck8]

OH Star this is OUTSTANDING advice. The world needs more of the "nice" people....no reason to change to the other team just like Star said.

I honestly beleive that all people at one time were nice, and kind. And then life sent some curve balls. Some caught the ball and tried to deal and learn from it, others the curve ball hurt them so much, they didn't know what to do with the hurt, so they unknowingly throw the ball back to try and hurt in hopes their pain is not seen.

Does that make sense?

Hi Heart.
That absolutely makes sense! I think all of us have been guilty of wanting to throw "that ball" back so the other person can feel the hurt like you felt it. I think that's a normal defence reaction, and I know I've been guilty of throwing that ball as hard as I can throw sometimes... but it never makes me feel better! I've tried really hard not to become cynical and hard, and it's so nice to meet other people (even if it is on the computer) that truly care what you have to say!
Even when it's storming, if you wait long enough the sun will peek through the clouds! :)
Remind me of that next week when I come online and I'm all grumpy, lol :)