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    Jan 17, 2006, 11:36 PM
    Does Sexually Attraction Interfer?
    In my line of work... you deal with a lot of vendors... one of them happens to be a married man... we occasionally have lunch. Well I started to have feelings for him... and I have a feeling he did too. Now when we see each other, we grab on to each hug and his started to kiss me a lot on the cheek. Prolem his 40 and I'm 20, his married and I'm single. And I want to but... I have morals that seem to get in the way and he does too. But yet when we see each other we are turned on... can we still see each other once a week and keep the relationship the way it is and nothing more... basically can a man and a woman be friends despite sexually attraction?
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    Jan 17, 2006, 11:38 PM
    Please... will someone give me there input!
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    Jan 18, 2006, 12:14 AM
    Maria, you should not get mixed up with a married man. Don't fall for his lines, he's probably just interested in you for sex and nothing else. Your young, there's a lot of single guys out there that will be happy to date you. Stay away from this man.
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    Jan 18, 2006, 09:46 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by maria26
    In my line of work...you deal with a lot of vendors...one of them happens to be a married man....we occasionally have lunch. Well I started to have feelings for him...and i have a feeling he did too. Now when we see each other, we grab on to each hug and his started to kiss me a lot on the cheek. prolem his 40 and im 20, his married and im single. And i want to but...i have morals that seem to get in the way and he does too. But yet when we see each other we are turned on...can we still see each other once a week and keep the relationship the way it is and nothing more...basically can a man and a woman be friends despite sexually attraction?


    First 40 and 20 is not the issue, age has nothing to do with it, unless he is merely a middle aged man in a mid life crisis looking for love in all the wrong places.

    The fact that it is first interfering with your work and you are interfering with his marriage it is a problem.

    Do not allow "hugging and a kiss" to continue, sit your foot down and demand proper respect from a married man.
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    Jan 18, 2006, 09:47 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by maria26
    Please...will someone give me there input!
    Ok, so at 1:36 AM EST you post your problem.

    Then, at 1:38AM EST, you ask for someone to answer?? Give us more than 2 minutes. We aren't Superman.

    I agree with PrettynPetite1. Don't get mixed in with a married man because heck, he is just thinking about sex considering your age difference.

    Obviously you have to work with him, but can you get someone else to take over? If not, keep it professional and don't let yourself get fooled by him. If he really cares for you, wait until he leaves his wife and gets divorced before perusing a relationship. Because anything before that, then odds are he’s just using you for the sex.
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    Jan 18, 2006, 10:18 AM
    You at age 20 have no business messing with a 40 year old man at all.No hugging no kissing no contact and I say it that way because he's married and no good could become of this relationship at all.Unless the two of you can respect each others boundaries then you should make a wide berth of this one.I see misery and pain in your future if you continue down the path your on!:cool:
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