[bumpkin]

I have recently met a guy in the last 5 weeks and we really have clicked and get on brilliantly, we share a lot of jokes and banter as well as talking about deeper issues as well and I think we both feel we are on the same level. A couple of weeks I invited him back to mine for the night and he was unable to get an erection, he did wake up in the middle of the night however with a full hard on, however the moment I got close, (he led my hand to his penis) he went soft again. I didn't say anything and we just took it slow and kissed and cuddled. A week later he came back to mine again and despite lots of foreplay he couldn't maintain an erection at all. In the morning after kissing and cuddling he said he was becoming frustrated. I just didn't know how to approach the whole thing, I kissed him gently and said time and patience. I want to bring up the subject but can see he's afraid to discuss it and I'm terrified of putting pressure on him by bringing it up, just don't know how. The only thing I know about his sexual past is that he has said he has been single for many years and is amazed how well we have clicked and have been getting on. He has indicated he's simply not used to real sexual intimacy as he been single so long. I really like and I know he feels the same, I just don't know what to say as I don't want to pressure him and scare him off. We are both 35, please does anyone know how I can approach this sensitevely?

[Fr_Chuck]

Well first the issue of sex after a few weeks of knowing each other.

But it can be stress, it can be medication that he is taking, And of course there is medication that really helps if there are other problems.

[Choux]

My opinion.

You just met him five weeks ago... stop all the sex and get to know him! Any number of things can be going on in this situation. :)