[stripey213]

I got drunk at a party and... then we went to have sex but it didn't fully go in but I'm afraid he still had spirm on his penis and am scared that I am pregnant. If I am I would get an abortion but how would I go about this without my mum knowing because I am only 14 and how much would it cost?

[LearningAsIGo]

Hun,
Settle down. Why in the world are you behaving this way at 14? You don't have to worry about an abortion because you don't even know if you are pregnant. You are much too young to be engaging in ANY sexual activity, let alone drinking, when you don't even know how you can become pregnant, sperm, ovulation, menstration, etc.

Sit down with your mum and start asking questions about sex. Its time you talked to a trusted adult so you can start to understand your body.

[ScottGem]

The first thing is wait until you miss your next period. Then you can get a home pregnancy test and take that. If it shows you are pregnant, you can then decide what to do. Most clinics are required to keep your situation confidential. They can also arrange funding on a sliding scale.

But you really do need to think long and hard about ALL your options and the long term affects of each.

Once you get past this issue, you need to do some real soul searching. A 14 year old should NOT be drinking at parties or even going to parties where liquor is served. You should definitely NOT be having sexual intercourse, especially when you understand so little about your body.