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MeNdOniMe · Jan 12, 2008, 11:32 AM

I'm in a rather confusing and complicated situation at the moment being torn between 4 lads we'll call 'A' 'B' 'C' and 'D'.

'A' is my boyfriend at the moment and has been for 11 months, we have a very strong relationship but recently I've found myself thinking of being with other people mainly 'B' 'C' and 'D'.

'B' is my friends ex-boyfriend but dumped her for me as recently we have been flirting an awful lot and I do find him extremely attractive and can see myself in a relationship with him.

There's also 'C' who is my best friend. We are very close but even though he is the fittest lad in my year I have never looked at him as a potential boyfriend until the other night. We were on the way home, there was only us on the bus and I was crying. He was hugging me trying to comfort me but one of his hands was quite high on my thigh and was getting further and further up as he was getting closer. I was extremely upset and looked at him for comfort but as I did he leaned in and kissed me but it was more than a friendly kiss. I am now quite confused about wt to do

Finally there's 'D', I met him on holiday and we had a great time, we flirted and did other stuff and I felt rather guilty because of 'A' but I could not stop thinking about 'D'. We had long walks down the beach at night and drove round the town during the day and even though it was only a month he made me feel like no one has before, I still think about him everyday and even found myself imagining being with him while I was actually with 'A'.

I'm really confused about wt to do!! Can anybody help me please??

s_cianci · Jan 12, 2008, 11:39 AM

Well, for starters C and D are out. D was strictly a vacation fling and C sounds very aggressive and one to be avoided. Now you say that B is your friend's boyfriend so he's off limits for now. If you're unhappy with A then you owe it to him to be honest and upfront about it and end things with him. If you do, then if and when B ends things with your friend then the two of you can think about getting together. But first and foremost you have to be fair and honest with A.

rachelL · Mar 11, 2008, 03:39 AM

If it were me, I'd probably just choose to stay with A, but you should break up with if you like other people better because otherwise your relationaship is fake if you go round hooking up with other guys, secondly guy C - the best friend - sounds like another good option because you would be comfortable with him because he's your best friend, but don't go with him if you don't feel the same way as he does. D definitely not because of the same reason as the above post.
And B- well he's your friends ex, so make sure she's comfortable with it.

xxxlovecanhurtxxx · Mar 13, 2008, 04:58 PM

If you like other people then you are mentally cheating on your boyfriend. D was probably just a fling and he might do this a lot so I would not worry about him. And B is off limits because he could ruin a friendship and I don't really believe you would want that. If u are true to your boyfriend then you should be open and honest with him. Tell him that you have feelings for other guys. You should maybe break up with A and get your feelings sorted out before going out with ANYONE.

Chrissyg89 · Mar 13, 2008, 09:59 PM

To me it sounds like you should break it off with A and date no one. You sound like you have no idea what you want, which is totally OK, but your kind of leading all of these guys on. Try single, then you can date guys and find out what you like without cheating. Then after afew dates with a guy decide then.