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    jallen181 Posts: 2, Reputation: 1
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    Jan 6, 2008, 06:30 AM
    Looking great never felt so bad.
    I am new to this site but after reading previous questions I realize I am not alone in marriage issues. I had gastric bypass a little over a year ago. I look amazing now. I know my husband LOVES me but now he doesn't love me in the bedroom. He is a great dad, a wonderful provider for me and our family, and he is my best friend. But the fact that I am the only one that can get sex started is very stressfull. And I am concerened that it is starting to cause other problems in what was a great marriage. I have always been a sexual person since we were married. Something has changed and its not just my size.
    Please help
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    simoneaugie Posts: 2,490, Reputation: 438
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    Jan 6, 2008, 07:08 AM
    If you were big when your husband married you, the weight change may be affecting his libido. Talk to him. Tell him how you feel and ask him what's up.
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    Jan 6, 2008, 07:49 AM
    I agree with Simeoneaugie. Some women who go from thin to fat have the same problem.
    Also I have known of guys that marry heavy woman because they have an underlying insecurity issue that if they marry a thin attractive woman she will cheat.

    Ask him why things have changed since you got rid of the weight and figure out what can be done by how he answers.
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    Jan 6, 2008, 01:06 PM
    I think you are wanting him to chase you around and appreciate the new you. Talk to him, straight up and honestly. Men are not mindreaders.
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    Jan 6, 2008, 08:00 PM
    Your right talaniman, I do want that... I want him to flirt with me and make me feel as pretty as I look.. thank you
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