[HADENOUGH]

I have a 16 year old son who is verbally and mentally abusive not only to me but he is with my 6 other children He gets into trouble at school all the time he is now waiting trial for felony burglary I want to relinquish my parental rights, but my husband doesn't want to what can I do I can't take anymore abuse.

[Wondergirl]

I'm really sorry to hear about your family anguish. Did this behavior come about recently, or has your son had a history of emotional and behavioral problems?

[brown_eyes_3546]

If he wants to be in control of himself let him. When it comes to having other children in the house that I assume are much younger you have to think of there future. They will grow up thinking that is how to be! If he asks to be emancipated let him. If he has a felony he has already thrown his chance at college away and his high school diploma because he most likely will go to jail. Be there for him if he needs you but your husband needs to think about your safety and your children's if he is abusive.

[twinkiedooter]

I am sorry about your son's behavior problem. He will probably end up going to prison and spending at least a year there due to the crime. He will never come back the same. He will either get much worse or much better. He will get "tough" from who he hangs out with in jail or he will "get Jesus" and come out a better person. Right now his future is dim. I would not disown him if I were you just yet as possibly he will "get Jesus" and straighten himself out. You can pray to the Lord for help, you know. If he knows Mom and Dad still love him and care about him he's got a chance to get right with himself. If he thinks Mom is a b**tch and doesn't care about him - you will be pushing him right into the arms of his prison pals who will happily teach him how to be a better criminal when he gets out. It's up to you, Mom, to let him know you LOVE him dearly, but you cannot stand his present behavior. A mother's unconditional love for a child never changes and I don't think you should let his present behavior cloud your love for him now when he obviously needs your love and support due to his present situation.

[brown_eyes_3546]

If they are in prision I would hope he doesn't take how to be abetter criminal classes from them seeing as they were evidently bad at it also. --just an obsevation.

A mothers love does make his chances better at turning around but some people just don't want to. I have my own experiences there and I feel for you.

[Gernald]

Sorry, but maybe for the sake of the younger kids he'd be better off in jail or at a detention facility.
Have you considered boot camp, or military school? They have scholarships for that and one of there programs might be able to help both you and your son.
Good Luck!