[fungal1234]

I was a fool! I dated a man going through a divorce and he was always in this constant state of confusion. I fell in love with this man. I did my very best to make sure that I wasn't the rebound as he told me that he and his stbx had been separated for 2 years. I entered the relationship fell madly in love and then started to see a change in him. He was completely ambivalent. He did not care for me or any of my feelings and I believe he exited the relationship long before it ended. He only started the divorce proceedings when he met me and even then I had to tell him every step to take. I told him that he needed to file for it or I would have to leave - he accomplished that much but he and his stbx had a non-contested divorce and it should have been finalized within 90 days. To make a long story short after a year of dating he did nothing to finalize his divorce. I put our relationship "on-hold" till he could complete the divorce - 3 weeks after I put our relationship "on-hold" he ends everything. He stated that I left him in an emotional and fragile condition and he was hurt. He has recently hooked up with a girl he met at the bar and within 2 months moved her in to his house with her 3 kids and they are engaged to be married. He still hasn't completed the divorce but I feel so used up, lied to, played with, and HURT. I gave my heart and soul to this man and he just walks away so unscathed - I am s-l-o-w-l-y recovering but he doesn't even care what he has done to me. I know that once he recovers from this phase he is in he would be the most wonderful companion. I got the emotional drama and she gets the new and improved man. Any advice out there on how to recover from these relationships :(

[talaniman]

By your own admission you fell in love, with a confused man. Your mistake for assuming him to be ready. Read the links in my signature for some positive actions you can take, to get over this guy. I think you still put far more on him than he is worth, since he could be grateful for the help you gave him.

[little firefly]

OMG, You just described my previous relationship to a tee! I have been suffering for months now over what my ex put me through! (If you want the background on my situation just look up my previous posts). All I can tell you is to be prepared for the hard emotional ride that you are in for. I wish I could give you some good advice to help dull the pain, but I just try to keep myself busy. I've been spending more time with friends, and I come to this forum A lot!
Everyone here has been so helpful to me and have gotten me through some pretty rough days. Just try to keep hanging in there. We are all here to help.