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ms_sweet_n_pretty · Nov 28, 2007, 02:15 PM

Well, the judge sent us to mediation... we will see what happens then I guess

Foxy459459 · Nov 29, 2007, 07:17 AM

Don't you have an order of protection on him?

ms_sweet_n_pretty · Nov 29, 2007, 07:20 AM

Since the charge against him was not Domestic Violence, but a criminal Assault on a Female, He is automatically served with a restraining order.

ScottGem · Nov 29, 2007, 07:20 AM

Originally Posted by ms_sweet_n_pretty

Well, the judge sent us to mediation...we will see what happens then i guess

That's not a good sign. Mediation means the judge expects you to work out a compromise.

ms_sweet_n_pretty · Nov 29, 2007, 07:21 AM

Yea she didn't seem to want to get involved with it, because he has that criminal charge against him. I guess she was trying to be nice to him, because he would probably lose custody.

Foxy459459 · Nov 29, 2007, 07:37 AM

How are you souposed to be around him if you have a restaining order on him. I think its time to contact legal Aid for a lawyer. They will be able to help you..

ms_sweet_n_pretty · Nov 29, 2007, 07:44 AM

Mediation is conducted in the courthouse, its allowed for us to communicate as long as we are in court. :-( but I still plan on getting a lawyer, because I don't think we will end up with an agreement. He is stubborn and selfish

Foxy459459 · Nov 29, 2007, 10:16 AM

Do you want him to lose custody? Does he even do anything for your little one? Does he at least pay you child support?

ms_sweet_n_pretty · Nov 29, 2007, 03:04 PM

Naw, I don't want him to lose custody, he does love his son and my son does love him, but my son does not want to live with him and I want him to live with me and go to school in my district. He doesn't pay me child support. It makes things hard sometimes. He buys things for him and feeds him only when he is at his house.

Foxy459459 · Nov 30, 2007, 07:22 AM

You need to take him to court for child support so that way he can help you, that is his responisablity as a father. I see where you are coming from I was once in the same boat you are in. Although I live in New York State and the laws here are very different. I hope all works out for you and your family!

excon · Nov 30, 2007, 07:50 AM

Hello ms:

I see where you're getting a lawyer. That's good. Maybe if you had one yesterday, you would have won. I don't know.

I've been reading about all these things and all this stuff that you need to tell the judge. And, I've been reading about everybody agreeing that you have a good chance if you just tell the judge certain stuff...

The assumption above is that court is fair. Plus, I didn't see one person ask, nor did you say whether HE has a lawyer or not.

From MY perspective, court is NOT fair. Court is WAR. Court is about WINNING. If you go to court WITHOUT your army, and he HAS an army, fair ISN'T part of the equation.

It's all wonderful that you have this information that supposedly will help you. But, if you CAN'T get it in front of a judge, it's garbage.

excon

PS> I understand that court is ultimately about the best interests of the child. But, the best interests of the child aren't served if you don't WIN.