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    babymya Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Nov 20, 2007, 01:36 PM
    I want to give up my baby for adoption
    My boyfriend and I have 2 kids.im pragnet with our third but we can't afford to raise another baby.so what do we have to do to give it up.
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    N0help4u Posts: 19,823, Reputation: 2035
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    Nov 20, 2007, 01:44 PM
    There are adoption agencies. Make sure they are open adoption so that if your baby ever wants to find you they don't have the heartache of not being allowed to. Some open adoptions also allow you to keep involved with the child to some degree.
    Make sure it is a reputable agency.

    These are two of many

    Adoption Agency - Open Adoptions - A Childs Waiting, Akron Ohio

    International and Domestic Christian Adoptions | An Open Door Adoption Agency
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    Nov 20, 2007, 10:17 PM
    Check with your local social services office. There are MILLIONS of sites for adoption.

    I seriously recommend you find a local one, and ask to talk to a local counselor specializing in adoption--and ask if they can recommend one NOT affiliated with their agency. A reputable agency will have a referral for you.

    It's a hard step--and you deserve to know ALL of your options. Try going to Planned Parenthood and ask them for referrals as well.

    One thing I would recommend is to NOT go through a private adoption. Private adoptions favor the adoptive parents in most cases (since they're the ones REALLY fronting the money for everything, almost all adoption proceedings favor the adoptive family). At least with an agency, there are rules in place for YOUR peace of mind.

    While most states do not allow contracts between birth parents and adoptive parents, try to get your agreement in WRITING, so that the adoptive parents can not say later that they didn't agree to whatever it is you'd like them to do for contact (pictures, letters, phone calls, emails, visitations, whatever).

    Sites like Adoption.com are a great place to start... but I really recommend going to a local social services and actually speaking with someone there, and I really REALLY urge you to get pre-adoption counseling, to make SURE you understand what you're giving up.

    My heart goes out to you, and I wish you the best of luck with everything.
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    Nov 21, 2007, 02:10 PM
    And you might consider stop having sex. Or at least going to a clinic and getting birth control pills and use them!
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    Nov 21, 2007, 02:20 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by 450donn
    And you might consider stop having sex. Or at least going to a clinic and getting birth control pills and use them!

    Mabe they don't want to stop, just because they love each other doesn't mean that they have to stop showing it for each other, any who died and made you the desider of there relationship??

    Oh yea soz for flooding but its up to you if u want to put it up or not people will stand by you all the way no matter what your dision is :)
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    Nov 21, 2007, 09:06 PM
    I think you are very noble in your decision for thinking of your children before yourselves. It takes an unselfish person to adopt them out to keep them from having a rough life. Wish you guys luck!

    Quote Originally Posted by 450donn
    And you might consider stop having sex. Or at least going to a clinic and getting birth control pills and use them!


    Who the hell died and made you their decision maker? Maybe you should do some research and maybe you would realize that birth control and condoms are not 100% effective. How do you know she isn't on birth control and that they didn't use condoms? Sometimes condoms do break. Sometimes women forget to take their pills. Stress can sometimes counter act with the hormones in the pill, shot, or patch. Interuterine devices have been known to fall out without the woman's knowledge. How do you know God didn't plan this pregnancy so the child could be given to a couple who is unable to conceive and have been hoping for a child for years? You should commend her since even though they cannot afford the child she is choosing life over abortion.
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    Nov 26, 2007, 05:00 PM
    I agree with sdc719!! You are exactly right!
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    Nov 27, 2007, 12:20 PM
    Comment on 450donn's post
    It was shallow, rude and abrupt.
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    Feb 11, 2009, 04:43 PM
    My aunt would love to adopt! Her and her husband want so badly to have a child, and if you haven't given it up yet I would please ask you to contact them. They are through an adoption agency in Indiana and there website is: terriandaudra.com - Home terriandaudra.com - Home

    Jim
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    Mar 12, 2009, 01:13 PM
    I just so happen to know a couple who would be more than happy to take your baby. They are willing to pay. If you'd like more details, please email me!

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