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"Normal" relationship.
My roommate is going through a really bad breakup. She's 37.
He was divorced, two children, bitter ex wife, spends time between two cities, one in the us, on in mexico, both 1k miles away, just starting a new business and NOT making any money, plus here's the kicker, had a vasectomy, she's desperate to have her own children. Apparently he's very jealous and petty, this I learn after the breakup. Red flags mean nothing to her. She's never had a serious boyfriend for any length of time, this one lasted about 5 months and she was talking marriage, moving and even sent out an email proudly announcing that she had the right to call his kids her "stepsons". She dumps all her friends, puts on the blinders and transforms herself into what she thinks the particular man wants. The last guy was a pseudo hippie, so she started her pottery classes and smoked a lot of dope. I think she's willing to settle for any man who pays attention to her. Another friend has dubbed it "INSERT MAN HERE" syndrome. I truly feel for her broken heart, but sort of feel she is setting herself up for failure. Not that I'm the beacon for all things that work in relationships, but I like to think that I've learned some lessons. Now with that all in mind... What constitutes a NORMAL relationship? Remember she's 37. Living with someone? Dating someone for more than a year? |
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I think that a normal person and a normal relationship would be that the people like and enjoy the same things, and they get along, that's normal. There's no standard, they just have to actually be compatible, with her being herself, not changing for the other person.
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You can't describe normal to anyone because what may be normal behavior for you may not be for that person. The only thing you can really do is be honest with your friend about how you feel, show her a lot of support and be there when she needs it. But she is 37 and may be stubborn, it won't be easy but just continue to be supportive, and perhaps, you can even suggest or help her find a "normal" date..
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